Forget New Year’s resolutions… you don’t want your kinky sex life to fizzle mid-January along with most of those, do you? What you want instead is an action plan!
Making long lists is more like a dream diary, but choosing a few important objectives and finding ways to implement them is solid strategy. Focus your energy on a few key essentials, and then “just do it.”
I’m sharing my three-step action plan in hopes that it will inspire all you Kink Lovers out there.
Incorporate health into your daily life, and health limitations into your sex life.
Health is sexual wealth. If you’re a healthy young stallion, don’t take it for granted. Enjoy it while you have it, and understand easy health is temporary. If you have health challenges, at any age, be realistic and consistent about self-care.
For example, curing diabetes or losing a hundred pounds by March is not going to happen. Avoiding sugar and going on long-walking dates solo or with a lover is a strategy that you can stick to. Caring for our bodies is part of our sexuality.
Don’t make the mistake that sex is only for healthy young people. It’s important at all stages of life and helps contribute to our physical and emotional well being. Be as healthy as you can be, but never deny yourself sex medicine because of some drawback.
Sex is for older people, people with mobility limitation, and people with chronic conditions. Kinky sex is an amazing platform to incorporate into your life, because there are ways to play at any ability, and mobility issues or other medical situations can be creatively entwined with BDSM, voyeurism, role plays, fantasies and fetishes.
Go deeper into your kinky interests.
I’m a free spirited poly girl who enjoys trying everything and having a blast, but I get the feeling that I’ve only scratched the surface of kink—playing at experiment and adventure but not necessarily taking it to those profound levels of body and psyche that might come from intense sex exploration and really deep intimacy.
I met someone special in the last few months. I won’t be giving up my other lovers, but I have decided that I want to go the distance sexually with this person and take soul and body connection to the next level. I’m excited about exploring serious submission and an erotic journey together.
Maybe there’s a fetish calling you in further, or a kinky woman who wants to connect more deeply. Maybe this is the year to take the plunge.
Engage with more women in group-sex scenes.
One thing I’ve noticed is that the more I include women in my love life, kink play, and threesomes, the more satisfied and happier I am in every day life.
Being with women has always been exciting and sensual for me, and I love to watch another woman climb on top of a man and ride him—it gets me off hard. Even so, I consider myself a straight woman and really do need men sexually in my life or I’m not satisfied.
I assumed that at some point I would settle down with a man and maybe I will, but right now I’m thinking that making love to both men and women, especially at the same time, is the ultimate fulfillment for me—not a phase, but the essence of my sexuality. I’ve decided to embrace that even more and see what ecstasy I can bring to my female lovers and what that brings to me.
Okay, Kink Lovers, what’s your action plan for the new year? Let us know in the comments!
Tell us what you think