For the beginner, the world of kink and the needs of women in that world can feel intimidating. For the kinky experienced Romeo, forgetting the basics might be why some of your experiences aren’t satisfying or electric.
4 Basic Skills to Master
1. Cunnilingus
There’s treasure to be found by mastering the art of deep-sea diving. It’s a transferable skill. It can be sweet, intimate, and vanilla. It can be what saves you when your mistress is demanding to get off, and you’re all tied up.
Whether it’s an act of love or humiliation, or both, the man whose mouth knows its way around the pussy will never be too far from one.
2. Using a Dildo
On a recent date, barely out of our clothes, the dude pulls out a giant plastic cock and moves it towards my vagina. Um, not so fast… he hadn’t even touched me yet.
Don’t leap in with your own or a silicone facsimile. Get her excited and then keep it going.
Other guys are stuck on the idea that the only dick at the table should be the one attached to their body. Get over that.
Dildos have many uses. They can be used for longevity. They can be secured inside of her while she sucks you off. They can be used to vary the size of the penetrating object. And they can be used to help fill every orifice.
Get comfortable with all the kinky ways a dildo adds to her pleasure and yours, and your dick will always be taken care of too. Trust me.
3. Kissing
The hallmark of a great lover is the man who knows how important kissing is.
There are times when you won’t kiss at all, when it’s too sensual during rougher play, and times where only a little bit of kissing is called for.
Part of being a great kisser is discerning her signals and reading the situation. The benefits and bonds of kissing come in handy with hot one-night encounters, as well as with deepening ecstasy when partners are familiar from years of being together.
Kissing can also be used for torture, when she’s restrained and wants you real bad. Kissing can be healing after a rough session of spanking, when kissing and licking those battered butt cheeks will have her calling again.
4. Keeping an Open Mind
Yes, that’s a skill. Guys can get really fixated on the fetishes they’ve nailed down, and this makes sense—when you know something turns you on, you’re gonna go for it.
If you want to drive kinky women wild, you’ll need to be willing to try new things or experiment on her behalf.
Whatever she’s got a thing for, be game. Don’t worry if you’re not an expert because she’ll get off on showing you the ropes. It’s fun trying different kinks out together to see what works and feels good for both of you.
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