I am of two minds about this. On the one hand, it might be better to just say what your kinks are off the bat, and if she comes back for more, you know there might be something worth pursuing. On the other hand, if you ease people into stuff, you might have a chance of softening the blow of exactly how dirty you actually are.
4 Kinks I Share on a First Hookup
1. Dirty Talk
You can casually throw it out there, or show approval when she says something salacious: “Oh, I love it when you talk dirty to me!” Or you can tell a story that has some raunchy elements, and see how she responds. Observation is key when it comes to disclosing kinks and fetishes.
Judging just how crass to be, without getting too pervy, is a bit of an art. It will require storytelling skills, and a few gambits with regards to how far a lady is willing to follow you down a rabbit hole. Still, if you throw your hook and she bites it, then jets ahead, baby!
2. D/s Role Playing
Funny to say, but you can actually set the tone for domination and submission in an entire relationship, just by the subtle ways you behave towards each other on a first date. You can either say outright your preferred role in the bedroom, or you can test each other to see how you respond to bossing and being bossed.
Most people naturally fall into a dom or sub role without much having to be said, and it all follows from there. I realize that being forthright is probably the safest way to know, but the tests make it a bit more of a game, and sexier if it all pays off.
3. Foot Fetish
Drink three glasses of tequila, and ask if you can suck her toes. Fuck it. Throw it in the ring like a towel and surrender to your passions. I’m kidding, for the most part, but having a foot fetish is common. Most women aren’t going to be surprised if you bring it out—it’s what you want to do with it that may take some coaxing.
Not all women want their toes sucked, but most will at least go for a foot rub.
4. Voyeurism and Exhibitionism
Again, this is more of a test thing. If you let the date go to unusual places, like climbing up on a roof, or exploring tunnels or the guts of a hotel, you will quickly discover if it turns her on. Same thing with spying on people at other tables, skinny dipping—anything that challenges the boundaries of proper etiquette in public spaces.
I like to push a little and see how far a date is willing to follow. If she enjoys testing me in the same way, we’re off to the races!
The payoff can be incredibly hot when you find someone who is into the same crazy kinks you are!
What kinks are you willing to reveal on a first date or hookup?
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