Non-penetrative sex can be kinky sex. Spice things up with these naughty outercourse ideas.
I like a good fucking as much as the next girl. There’s just something undeniably transcendent about getting nailed by a man who knows what he’s doing. That said, there are times when penetration is neither practical, nor desired. Maybe the condom box is empty, or your lady’s vagina is “closed for maintenance.”
Thankfully, we kink lovers understand that there are so many avenues to pleasure aside from full-on intercourse. Here are some non-penetrative sex ideas to get you started.
4 Kinky Outercourse Ideas
1. Victorian Doctor and Patient Role Play
In days of yore it was commonly believed that women suffered from something called female hysteria. Symptoms included everything from shortness of breath to sexual forwardness.
What were these women who were acting not so ladylike prescribed? An orgasm! Not the kind achieved by way of intimate relations, but one delivered by a trained professional—a medically sanctioned sexual release if you will. So don your spectacles, plug in that antiquated vibrator you found on Kijiji, and get to treating, Doctor!
For more doctor and patient ideas, see our article Doctor-Patient Role Play Ideas.
2. Outercourse Orgasm Edging
Make your partner beg to cum with some teasing and orgasm denial. Start out slowly, placing the vibrator adjacent to her clit. Set it on high, and let her squirm to feel its effects. When she’s thoroughly worked up, touch it to her clit for a fraction of a second. Keep doing this until she’s going crazy for a release.
Alter the intensity of the vibe, as well as the pressure and duration of each contact. Shackle your partner, or use a leg spreader to heighten the intensity. Pay attention to her responses, and focus on building up anticipation before letting her fall over the edge.
Read: Edging Tips for Kinky Couples
3. D/s Undercover Outercourse
Once you’ve established the parameters of your kinky bond, take it to the streets. For this outercourse ideas, have your partner wear a smartphone-controlled vibrator in her panties while the two of you perform routine tasks.
Go to the grocery store and ask her to pick out the perfect melon from the pile. Reward (or punish) her for her choice with a precisely timed vibe blast. Spend time in a neighborhood coffee shop, surrounded by people and armed with a specific trigger word. Anytime someone asks for an Americano, give her a little buzz of her own.
Be sure to keep your activities on the DL by forbidding her to make a sound.
Read: Tips for Voyeurism with Consent
4. Outercourse Nipple Play
Perhaps you and your partner want to keep your outercourse above the belt, or her clit is simply worn out from all the intense vibe play you’ve been doing. In any case, it would serve you well to invest in a pair of nipple clamps. Choose ones that are fully adjustable, starting out with mild pressure, working up to a tight squeeze as your partner’s needs dictate.
Squeeze and release in a torturously teasing way, letting the blood flow fully back into the area before clamping it down again. If her nipples are sensitive enough, she might well cum from nipple torture alone. Just be sure to release the clamps regularly, as too much pressure for an extended amount of time could lead to permanent nerve damage.
Read: Kinky Breast Play Tips and Ideas
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