It will come as a surprise to none that one of my favorite pastimes is playing with myself. It doesn’t matter if I’m getting a lot of sex or not: I get myself off AT LEAST once every day.
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Masturbation is a great stress reliever and a natural painkiller, and it’s fun. What’s not to love?
Needless to say I was surprised when one of my kinky fuck buddies told me he doesn’t like to masturbate.
I was too busy for a hookup one night and told him he’d have to fly solo until next time. He said he doesn’t like to go it alone because it’s hard to get kinky by yourself.
Say what?
6 Tips to Spice Up Your Sex with Your Life-long Lover—You!
1. Keep it in perspective.
Getting hot and heavy with somebody else in a fully equipped dungeon is more elaborate and intense. But doing the home-alone thing isn’t about replacing your erotic adventures.
I view it as a dietary supplement!
2. Anything goes.
Far from being too vanilla, me time is where I really get to let my freak flag fly.
Maybe you can’t find someone tonight—or ever—to indulge your particular penchant. Nobody but you, that is!
3. Use your imagination.
Besides your hand, your imagination is key. You can experiment and field a million scenarios to find out what turns you on or what doesn’t.
Something you’ve been reluctant to try or didn’t do much for you might get a once-over tonight. You can surprise yourself.
4. No one knows what you’re thinking.
I’m hardly in the closet when it comes to fave fetishes, and I love dating and mating with like-minded hotties; but there are occasions where I want to explore darker matters or embarrassing scenarios.Â
Many men and women have rape or incest fantasies, with no desire to play this out in make-believe or real time.
Sometimes I have fleeting fantasies about really horrible, ugly men—I couldn’t tell you why—and I’m not alone.
I get mail from hot girls who say, “I’ve had bizarre sexual fantasies about Rob Ford and Donald Trump. Should I be disturbed?” I get mail from guys who want to bang Elizabeth Warren and Ann Coulter. They wouldn’t follow through with it, but still it comes to mind.
Just like our private dreams and nightmares when we’re unconscious, our private-time minds have no limits. This is a safe place to really push boundaries and have cathartic psychological purges.
5. Kinky props and toys are part of a complete breakfast.
Most masturbation for me is more utilitarian and less theatrical than partner or group sex. I close my eyes, and let my fingers do the walking.
But that doesn’t mean I never open the toy box when it’s just me. Hell, sometimes I get all dressed up in leather and pretend I’m putting on a sex show!
Certain kinks don’t work in action solo like unsafe bondage or asphyxiation games, and domination games don’t work that well on teddy. But there are lots of BDSM fun you can have alone.
6. The joy of porn.
Need I say more? Porn can be shared, yes. But many of you guys complain that your girl doesn’t get off on it. Or only sometimes.
There’s enough kinky porn to get you off every day for the rest of your life. Enjoy it!
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