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Exploring Fantasies and Desires Online

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Sexual exploration never ends, at least it hasn’t for me. It’s part of what makes life interesting, what keeps a relationship from going sour, and what helps us grow by testing our limits and boundaries. If you’ve always had a very straight-forward approach to sex, or you’ve kept your fantasies to yourself, it can be challenging, embarrassing, and sometimes scary to unleash those desires on a partner in a long-term relationship, a new lover, and especially a one-night-stand.

If you are hesitant or not sure what sexual kinks you might even be interested in, then the internet can be a great playground for a bdsm newbie or a vanilla looking for a little flavor.

3 Ways to Explore Your Sexuality Online

1. Erotica
Back in the day it was embarrassing to be seen holding a dirty novel, or checking out a sex-laden book at the library, but there’s so much erotica online now, you’ll never be able to read it all. I find women enjoy erotica more than men, who generally prefer porn. I for one prefer using my imagination to fill in the blanks. You may want to write your own naughty stories for a lover who will definitely be appreciative

2. BDSM Porn
What I like about most porn sites, besides that they’re free, is that they’re divided up into a a lot of categories, and sometimes even subcategories. So once you find what makes you hard or wet, you’ll know it might be something you’d like to try with a lover. My only warning: don’t expect a woman you’re hooking up with for the first time to do everything you watch online. Trust between partners is a must before engaging in bdsm activities.

3. Chatroom Kink
Maybe you’ve joined a bdsm dating site, but are not quite ready to meet someone in person. These kinky chatrooms, although not 100% free, do offer interested kinksters the chance to talk to and watch experienced bdsm enthusiasts. If you’re of the submissive sort, you’ll be able to meet a dominatrix who will put you in your place or even answer questions about the lifestyle.

And of course, there are thousands of kinky websites, forums, and blogs you’ll find along the way in your kinky explorations. If you have a favourite online hotspot, be sure to let us know in the comments.

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