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How to be a Voyeur without Crossing the Line

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Are you a secret voyeur? Do you enjoy catching a glimpse of your next door neighbour as she undresses. Maybe you were the kid at camp, sitting under the bleachers, hoping to get a glimpse of a girl’s underwear. You are not alone. Both women and men enjoy this practice. The catch is – how to enjoy this fetish without getting yourself into trouble.

Voyeurism is the sexual interest in or practice of spying on people engaged in intimate behaviors, such as undressing, sexual activity, or other actions usually considered to be of a private nature.

What makes voyeurism enjoyable is watching someone without them knowing they are being watched. I think of it as part reality, part fantasy. The term comes from the French word voyeur which means “one who looks”.

I see nothing wrong with this fetish, as long as you are not bothering, intimidating, invading privacy, or harassing the object of your fantasy. Most voyeurs don’t actually want what they are looking at, they simply get off on the fact that they feel hidden, that the subject of their view doesn’t know they are watching them. Sometimes the subject does know and there is a silent understanding between the voyeur and the exhibitionist that both are equally turned on by their game.

You would think the relationship between a voyeur and an exhibitionist would be a perfect one, but consent often determines whether a person is turned on, turned off, angry, or excited.  This fetish ranges from harmless to harmful (illegal activities involving peepholes, spy cameras, etc.) Voyeuristic tendencies may stem from sexual frustration to feelings of inadequacies, especially when one is consumed with the fetish rather than it being just part of their sexual whole.

There are many ways to enjoy this fetish without crossing any lines. Watching your partner undress or masturbate, checking out the “live” web cam girls on adult dating sites, visiting a nude beach, or watching people have intercouse at a sex club. Oh, the possibilities…

I never thought of myself as either a voyeur or an exhibitionist until I really thought about it. Many of my dream orgasms stem from watching others engage in sexual activities, and I do walk around my apartment naked with the blinds up most of the time. I don’t think anyone can see me but, the idea of someone watching does turn me on.  Maybe we all have a little of both in us.

Are you a voyeur? How do satisfy your fetish?

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