So you’re in a relaxed relationship already, but you want to do more than just see other people. You’ve heard about swinging, but don’t know where to start. Well, if you’re in an open relationship, you’re halfway there because it’s a difficult subject to bring up in a committed monogamous relationship, that’s for sure.
Swinging refers to non-monogamous sexual activity between consenting adults and can include group sex. A lot of people think of the seventies when they think of swinging because sex was a lot more open and free back then. But the swinging culture is alive and well with websites, blogs, forums, and clubs – complete with dance floors, hot tubs, and private rooms.
Swinging Tips to Get You Started
Do it Together
Couples should want to swing together. Plus, many clubs only allow men in with a female escort. If you’ve been together a long time then introducing swinging to her may be challenging.
Find a Club
This isn’t going to be a matter of just driving around your city. Scour the internet . . . reputable clubs will have websites. You’ll probably have to call for location information and be ready to say a little bit about yourself and your interest.
Get Sexy
At a swing club or party, it’s all about the ladies. Encourage your woman to dress to the nines and make sure you look sharp. No one there is going to be wearing jeans and sneakers. Attracting attention is important. Clubs also host theme nights where specific attire is encouraged although not mandatory.
Play the Game
Swinging has rules and you need to follow them. When someone tells you no, that’s exactly what it means – so move on. Most clubs will have rules beyond that basic #1 rule, and if you want to go back, you’ll want to adhere to them. These include no cameras or drugs.
Ease In
Don’t feel like you have to jump right into sex, but don’t be a wallflower either. Mingle, dance, socialize. Some clubs allow you to watch others engage in sexual activity; this might help relax you (and turn you on!) if you’re feeling anxious.
Find a Partner
When you’ve found a match, you can get right down to business. Most swing clubs or events have special rooms, some with kinky equipment. Practice safe sex and dispose of your condom after. Exchanging phone numbers is optional. Some people like the variety that swinging offers and don’t want an emotional connection. It’s up to you.
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