Looking for an orgy experience? Honestly, having an orgy is no easy thing.
Orgies are something I find happen more often when you gain a group of friends who are sex-positive, share their safe connections and vetted participants, or go to sex clubs in groups to feel safe and play together.
Lots of the patrons at sex clubs where orgies happen are usually couples who find other couples to play with, or couples who find a few lucky extras to join in on the fun they initiate.
Of course, there are a hundred ways to get to Destination: Paradise, but there are times when certain roads close down, and certain options end. I have a few ideas on how to find an orgy and make these wonderful gatherings happen, but if you have any more suggestions, I’m open to hearing them!
5 Ways to Find an Orgy
1. Be an Active Participant at Sex Clubs
Most of my threesomes, foursomes, and orgies have happened because I was a patient, healthy, honest, open-hearted, and safe individual just doing the right thing at the right place at the right time. Patient but persistent is a sex zen way to live!
Talk to people, watch the sex club events from a respectable distance, smile at people and not in a creepy way, and make eye contact. Be a good person, be helpful, offer condoms and lube.
Do these things and you will surprisingly find yourself transitioning into sexy times and orgies before you know it!
Read: Sex Party Tips and Etiquette
2. Find Orgy Partners Online
This is an option for finding an orgy that is wise and logical to choose in this day and age. There are niche dating sites for every kink, and if you want to find an orgy, don’t forget about group sex dating sites.
Two sites that I recommend for finding threesome partners and orgy events are Fling.com and FindaThreesome.com.
Both of these sites cater to orgy lovers by offering profiles for both singles and couples. All those horny couples looking for fun in a sex-positive, nudity-friendly community? Your orgy quest should start here.
People you meet online can sometimes be flakey or unsafe, but there are also adventurous peeps looking for real freaky hookups.
I’ve found some fun-ass orgies through a Facebook group once, actually. So use your noodle and search around for good-vibes people who you connect with and feel good about when you talk to them about orgies. If you build it, they will come… in a condom, ha ha!
3. Talk to Local Swingers
There are places to find swingers, from the internet to gatherings in public like parties and coffee shops. These are the people you’ll want to get to know if you want to have group sex happen on any kind of regular basis.
Swingers want people to add to their body parties, and if you’re a good person, they will keep your number close when you’re needed to add to the fun.
But keep in touch with them too. Send them emails, get their number, text them randomly or occasionally. Keep honor to the distance and boundaries, because you NEVER want to pressure the people who made your orgy happen, but be their friend! And you never know when you’ll get The Call!
4. Pay Sex Workers
To have an orgy, hiring sex workers is logical choice, but might seem illogical. It is NOT. If you want a super professional orgy with people on sexual levels beyond your beliefs, then put together an orgy with your dream sex partners, and pay them!
It’s more expensive than finding other “muggles,” but an orgy with sex workers will be an orgy that you remember for the rest of your life.
It’s not a regular option to choose, but orgies aren’t really a regular thing for anyone unless you’re in the sex industry. Still, you want to have a world-class orgy? Ask some sex workers if they can make it happen!
5. Make an Orgy Porno
This orgy option requires more work, and can vary in levels of professionalism and production value, depending on how much you want to invest.
You can simply put out an idea to safely gather some friends and record an orgy on a smartphone if you want to keep it lo-fi. Or you could put out ads and talk to porn companies about shooting a real orgy scene on tape, which would require a whole lot of different focus and mental preparation.
Not to be a dream killer, but I recommend putting in a lot of homework and studying before you do all that.
If that level of orgy is your dream, go for it! But if you want to just have some friends fuck around, pull out your phone and hop to it. Kinky folks have been capturing their group sex shenanigans on tape since hand-held vid cams were all the rage.
So, get creative, be safe, and gather your people to have an orgy!
Read: Orgy Etiquette for First Timers
xoxo,
Addi “Malcolm Lovejoy” Stewart
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