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How to Find a Bull for Your Hotwife

Your hotwife deserves a bull

Want to find a bull who will make your hotwife fantasies come true? Read on for some hotwifing tips and ideas on how to meet the right man for the job.

Cuckolding couples might think it’s easy to find a guy who’s happy to sleep with a hotwife. While it’s true that many men will be into a hotwife arrangement in theory, making the right connection can be a bit trickier than it sounds. But no need to make things complicated.

Let me break it down for you with some suggestions that will make the search for your bull both effective and fun.

Still haven’t met the hotwife of your dreams? Be sure to check out our favorite Hotwife Dating Sites.

Before the Bull Hunting Begins

Get clear on your hotwifing desires

Make sure both cuck and hotwife are on the same page before moving any closer to the reality of a cuckold arrangement. Talk about the fantasy together in a detailed manner, act it out in the bedroom, whisper your deepest desires to each other during some hot mutual masturbation.

Basically, you need to communicate with each other and start to shape a picture of what you want, and WHO you want to bring into your bedroom.

Read: Tips for Watching Your Wife with another Man

Plan a hotwife arrangement that works for all

Once it’s clear you’re both ready to turn fantasy into reality, it’s time to get practical. Do you want a bull that will be ready and able to humiliate the cuckold verbally? Is there going to be contact between all three of you, or is the cuck just going to watch? Do you want to meet a bull for an ongoing 3-way relationship?

The more details you can envision about a potential couple+bull arrangement are going to save you time later on in your search.

Read about one couple’s hotwife arrangement in Living the Hotwife Lifestyle.

Envision the Bull that’s right for both of you

Your hotwife may have specific ideas about how her bull will look or act. And a cuckold surely has an ideal image for the bull as well. Discuss and fantasize together about details such as your bull’s appearance, his demeanour, how dominant you expect him to be.

You may not get everything you want in the end, and that’s okay because some of these things will be superficial. But it gives you both a chance to work out any must-haves, in addition to nice-to-haves, and maybe even some traits that could be deal-breakers for either partner.

Be prepared for a few challenges

If you’ve followed the above advice then you’re now ready to find that bull! But in keeping your expectations realistic, it’s best to prepare yourselves for a few hardships that might arise in your search.

Your wife sharing fantasy is just that – a fantasy. While you should strive to set up the most ideal scenario you can, it’s important to not get discouraged by challenges.

These might include men who see it as a chance to have sex with someone’s wife without actually addressing the full 3-person dynamic, or guys who flake on you or “chicken out” at the last moment. Becca Bellamy’s site has a good list of the potential pitfalls when seeking a bull that you might want to consult before setting out.

Where to Meet Bulls for a Hotwife

Well, you can probably find a bull anywhere that you can find men who are down for sex. (So, everywhere?) It might happen on a night when you are out dancing together, or at the local gym.

But we want to go beyond wishful thinking and random threesome hookups, so let’s focus on strategies that help narrow the field.

1. Connect with other fetishists at a Munch

A BDSM munch isn’t as kinky as it sounds. But what these informal gatherings for people in the BDSM lifestyle offer is an opportunity to talk with others who share your cuckold fetish, or who have different fetishes but can relate.

Open-minded people getting together is a good thing, and it’s a great starting point if you want to meet a bull who understands cuckoldry from the outset.

2. Try a cuckold / hotwife dating site

A lot of hotwifing couples prefer to take their search for a bull online, and with good reason. With kinky dating sites dedicated to hooking up like-minded people, and large communities of kinksters eager to connect, it’s pretty much the go-to method for finding a bull.

The following are sites that I recommend for this pursuit. What you want to look for when choosing a hotwife dating site is a very large database of members so you aren’t too limited, the option to create a couples profile, and a hotwife site that not only tolerates your kink, but embraces it.

CouplesDating.com

Couples Dating is heaven on earth for cuckold couples and threesome seekers. People can join as couples or singles, and things can get very heated inside. Full nudity is on display and the features get fancy with video chat and more.

I’ve noticed that the desktop version of CouplesDating.com has a few more features available than on mobile, but either way it’s easy to get in touch with local bulls. I recommend putting your cuckold status in your profile title or somewhere prominent to make it easy for the bulls to find you directly.

Join Couples Dating

Hotwife and bull.
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LocalCuckold.com

The name of this one makes it pretty clear. Local Cuckold is a site for couples and singles who want to find a real hotwife arrangement.

While this cuckold dating site isn’t as bursting with potential playmates as Couples Dating, it can be a good option depending on your location. It’s smaller size is probably due to the fact that it’s more specific, and not as full featured.

What I suggest is just creating a basic profile and seeing how many local bulls there are before considering an upgrade.

Join Local Cuckold

FetishHookups.com

Fetish Hookups is another site with a large member base, but boy does this site skew towards KINKY.

So while Couples Dating caters to all sex seekers, Fetish Hookups is a true fetish dating site and you’ll find a lot of BDSM lovers as well. Dominants, submissives, slaves, kinky hotwives, and mistresses abound!

Get your fill of naughty chat and discover groups for spanking, foot fetish, strapons, and more. This is not your average dating site!

Join Fetish Hookups

3. Find a bull at swinger or fetish clubs

If you don’t want to meet online or in the light of day, perhaps your city’s nightlife can provide the perfect venue. While you can meet a hotwife bull anywhere, the best place to party it up with the hope of getting the number of a potential bull is going to be more specific than just any club or bar.

Check your local listings for fetish nights and swinger events. Many cities have swinger clubs that provide ample opportunity to find men interested in becoming your bull. If you are new to this, check out our tips for your first sex club experience.

While there are definitely differences between swinging and hotwifing, it’s still a good starting point due to an overlap of interests.


I hope these hotwife tips tips help you find the bull of your dreams.

If you’re still not in a position to explore the hotwife lifestyle, or perhaps have a wife or girlfriend who is still considering the idea, see our article:

How to Turn Your Wife into a Hotwife

Best of luck!

Are you ready to find a bull that can satisfy your goddess of a hotwife?

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