Kinky Confessions

How to Live the Hotwife Fantasy

Woman with Two Boyfriends

This installment of Kinky Confessions came to us from Mark.

“I’ve been married twelve years to a beautiful woman sixteen years younger. For several years we played with hotwifing fantasies before we became secure enough with the idea to make it a reality with a mutual guy friend who had just been through a divorce and was horny for my wife. That went on for about a year and ended. But she was hooked.

Now I’m allowing her to date married men she meets online. Our games last three months at a time. She’s allowed to date anyone she likes and meet for sex up to three times. She’s asking me to increase the number of encounters and allow her a longer game in which she creates a stable of five or six favorites.

She’s very relaxed and happy when she gets it often from outside lovers, and she’s become quite content with several outside relationships at once, which I prefer, because she’s in control and no one guy is able to manipulate her because of her need for a regular release others. Our sex life has become much better too, since she is constantly gathering erotic energy through encounters she has with her lovers. It’s win-win for both of us.” – Mark

Thank you for sharing this delicious story with us! It’s wonderful that you are able to enjoy the benefits of both of your fantasies and fulfill your needs and desires in kinky ways.

Your story highlights the insane hotness of this mutually beneficial arrangement, but also shows other horny men and women a few key details that can help all of us.

First of all, you share the gradual transformation of fantasy to reality as you built up trust and communication as partners. Hotwifing or cuckolding or polyamory scenes always work best for couples (or singles, throuples, and polycules) when built on the very security and intimacy you mention. Lovers can grow closer and more secure together sexually by sharing fantasies and ultimately, indulging them.

By being open to the possibilities rather than threatened by them, a relationship can grow closer and more sexually satisfying than we can even dream.

You also fielded potential threats or anxieties by finding solutions to those problems. Troubleshooting and brainstorming work just as well in the erotic department as it can in business, city planning, law, etc.

Your concerns about outside manipulations or losing touch as a couple have been mitigated by the boundaries you’ve set—in terms of an agreed upon number of encounters, dating men who are attached, and recognizing that her erotic satisfaction ultimately pays off for your sex life with each other too.

A few details for readers who are intrigued or who share the desire for this kind of scenario.

What is Hotwifing?

Hotwifing is similar to both open relationships and cuckolding, with a few important distinctions.

In the hotwife lifestyle, it is the woman who has multiple partners, but her extracurricular relations are also exciting to her man.

Cuckolding is when a wife or girlfriend takes other lovers that a man might feel are superior or more manly than he is. The concept is related to humiliation or submission and sometimes sissification. Hotwifing is similar, but psychologically different. The male is not aroused by betrayal or infidelity, but by the idea that his wife is so hot.

Competition is a key driver of testosterone in males. We all know men get even more horny for a partner when other guys are sniffing around, and this is no different. When the hotwife returns to her main lover, he is harder than ever.

How to Find a Hotwife

To learn more about where you can get involved or find a hotwife of your own, see our post:

Hotwife Dating Sites for Couples and Bulls

If hotwifing is something you want to try out in real life, keep Mark’s kinky confession handy for how to do it right!

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