Have you ever hooked up with an ex? I can’t be the only one. And I might do it again… After a recent breakup, I began flipping through my Rolodex of past lovers, wondering if there was anything (I mean anyone!) to be had. I wouldn’t be so horny, except that my bye-bye-boyfriend was amazing in bed. As great as great sex is, it can’t always save a relationship… sigh.
So my next move is to send out a few feeler messages or texts. I know, it sounds awful… or is it? I love dating sites, and going out to the bars can end in some spontaneous fun, but after a breakup, my energy levels are only so high. And some of my exes have pulled the same thing – some with success, some not.
If you’re thinking about hooking up with your ex, it’s best to consider the possible outcomes. I write these from experience and from friends who also “return home” when the land of loneliness becomes too much.
The Upside of Ex Hookups
- You both know what each other likes
- You both know what each other doesn’t like
- You know it’s only about the sex
- You’ll be reminded why the relationship didn’t work
- You don’t have to do “the work” of meeting someone new
The Downside of Ex Hookups
- You may have to relive bad memories
- You could end up back together, repeating past mistakes
- You may end up wanting more than they do
- You may have regrets afterwards
- You may realize the sex wasn’t as good as you remembered
If you think you can handle it, it’s worth a shot… especially if the breakup was amicable.
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