Information is powerful, and wielding it comes with great responsibility as a Dom. When you travel to a distant BDSM festival you may be surrounded by strangers. Often roleplayers prefer to meet people online at sites like BDSMDate.com to protect their anonymity, but if you are in the kink life long enough you will eventually bump into someone you know from work, or a friend of a friend from way back when. Here are some important things to keep in mind anytime you recognize another fetish participant:
1 – Never Break The Mood
Few things wreck an entire evening faster than some asshat ruining a scene by blurting out “Hey, aren’t you Mary from Accounting?” at another participant in the middle of an exciting role play moment. If you do notice anyone, or think someone looks familiar, save it until after the scene is over and share your discoveries privately during aftercare.
2 – Discuss Private Information Privately
You have no way of knowing who else knows someone, or what they want others to know about them. Your anonymity is your own and theirs belongs only to them. Always discuss private information with someone in privacy and see how they want to handle it before asking anything in front of other people no matter how well they may seem to be connected already.
3 – Be Ready To Abide By Their Wishes
You aren’t the ethics police. If your neighbor’s wife likes to suck off strangers at a glory hole and you notice it’s her as you cum all over her face, let her know her secret is safe with you. Only she gets to decide if her husband has a right to know or not and you need to abide by her wishes.
4 – Prove You Can Be Trusted
In many instances, especially online at sites like BDSM Date and Find a Femdom, if someone recognizes you first, they may have a friend or acquaintance act nosy to find out what you’re willing to say about them as a test of your trust. Always treat requests for information about others as a chance to prove you can be trusted. Never gossip or spread rumors that may make someone else uncomfortable, and you’ll soon be welcome everywhere whether the people there know you personally already or not!
How do you keep your kinky lifestyle private? Or do you?
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