As a porn star, I sometimes joke: “I LOVE practicing to make a baby, but I’m not sure I want to actually play that game. Let me keep on practicing though!”
The one thing porn stars generally don’t want is to become pregnant while working. Peace to Bonnie Rotten and a few of the wonderful, brave and beautiful women who have safely continued to do scenes while pregnant. Pregnant women get horny too, and there is a genuine market and subculture for pregnancy fetish porn out there… but I digress.
For the MOST part, we know that the vast majority of pornography takes place without people getting pregnant, and that’s because we porn people PRACTICE SAFE SEX! And we don’t just practice safe sex to avoid pregnancy of course.
There are many options to stay safe, but I’m going to focus on the cheapest and most popular—condoms.
Condoms are accessible nearly everywhere you go, from corner stores to health clinics to sex clubs. It’s easy to find handfuls of cheap, medium-to-high quality condoms at your local healthcare center or drop-in.
Condoms are not perfect in stopping pregnancy & STIs, but they are as safe as human genital penetrative fluid-exchanging-and-intermingling sex gets!
How to Have the Safest Sex
1. Get Tested for STIs
Can’t catch diseases from people who don’t have diseases! And with that being said, there are treatments for those who do have STIs, so there’s no need to shame people who do catch something. Getting regularly tested is the best way to protect against anything ELSE that the condom might have to work on stopping the spread of, besides ejaculation!
2. Find Your Condom Brand
There are many types of condoms out there, offering a variety of sizes, textures, flavors, and features like ribbed, heated, and spiked. A fun part of sex is learning which brands of condoms work best with your body type, and which ones DON’T.
Between you and your partner(s), learning which condoms you like best is a great bonding experience and basically a win-win. Unfortunately, the worst condoms might cause rashes or itching, but it’s better to learn early than in the heat of the moment in the middle of some important sex!
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3. Check Condom Expiry Dates
Way back when, we boys were notorious for trying to feel super cool by having that ONE Trojan Magnum condom in our wallet, which we kept locked and loaded like a golden bullet, ready to dispatch at a moment’s notice. But how long did that single condom stay in that same secret compartment in the back of that old high school wallet? Sometimes for months, if not the entire school year.
That just-in-case condom you keep in your wallet can get worn down, crusty, and actually expire before a BIG night comes along. Don’t make that rookie mistake ever again. Buy new condoms regularly if you can’t find free ones.
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4. Compromise
Your partner may be using a prescription contraceptive, but they will still likely want the safest sex possible because even though you might not be able to get them pregnant, you ARE still able to spread STIs to each other. So figure out what contraceptives work best for your bodies, and share your preferences.
I know quite a few women who don’t like certain brands of condoms and ESPECIALLY don’t like certain brands of lube, so this matters in our pleasure together. I keep it in mind, and never touch my lovers with something they aren’t down with. It’s vital to learn these little things to make sex as spectacular as possible.
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5. Stock Up and Never Reuse
Why did I talk about grabbing handfuls of condoms? So you do NOT have to suffer the libido-shrinking indignity of running out of condoms in the moment of naked sexy truth! Get a pile of condoms, so you never run out and never have to think of re-using. (People do this!) Even if you don’t come in one, you’ll be able to throw a half-used jimmy hat away and put on a fresh one after a break!
Never use your simple safe-sex objects twice, just get new ones or change activities to safer ones.
You’ll have a long history of sexual PRACTICE to reflect upon, good health, and NO emergencies where you are suddenly playing the starring role as a parent instead of a porn star!
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Play safe,
Adhimu “Malcolm Lovejoy” Stewart
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