If you’re new to the joys of strap-on sex, here are a few tips to keep handy.
Beginner Tips for Strapon Sex
1. Skip the g-string strapon models, and go for the jock-strap harness.
Don’t worry if you don’t even know what that means—you will now, and it will come in handy.
The g-string fit means that the harness—the gear the dildo straps on to—is held in place by a skinny little strip between her butt cheeks.
The jock strap fit has better support under her butt cheeks, just like its namesake. This allows her more control. It can be tricky to operate a strap-on even when you’re used to it, because it’s not conveniently attached the way your cock is.
2. Think big, but start small.
If it’s for you, and not for your girlfriend’s girlfriend, start with a small dildo.
Have a few sizes of dildos on hand. You may use the smallest one over and over or only a few minutes, but don’t knock at the back door with the big dick you’re dreaming of!
Your asshole needs to be trained. Unless you or she have already been penetrating your pucker, it’s virgin territory.
3. Practice wearing the strapon.
If your partner is already experienced with strap-ons, skip it. But if it’s her first time having strapon sex, she’ll soon notice that it’s difficult to drive with a dildo.
With a sudden appendage, her movements will be different, and it will feel like she’s acquired an extra limb. The easiest way to get used to it is simply to wear it for awhile.
She’ll enjoy the experience of pegging you till kingdom come much more if she’s at home with her harness and strap-on dildo.
4. Strapon sex requires lube, lube, and more lube.
Maybe you watch kinky porn where a woman in leather chaps spits into her palm, rubs it on her strap-on, and starts plowing her prey.
But that’s not how it’s going to go. The head of her cock is going to be pushing against a resistant asshole, and you’ll be screaming blue murder.
On the other hand, if you’ve been primed inside and out with lubrication, and continue to add lube throughout the whole process, your deflowering is going to feel fucking spectacular. You’ll be opening wide for more before you know it.
5. Choose a comfortable strapon sex position.
Doggie style is ever popular, but seriously, starting out on your hands and knees with your ass in the air might leave you tensing up and teetering off balance. Lay down on your stomach. Stack a few pillows under your torso so your ass is lifted. Spread your legs a bit, just comfortably. Have her straddle you.
Focus on relaxing. Whenever you find yourself tensing up, remember to relax.
Watching porn is a good way to start too. You want to be aroused and stay at peak arousal. If you’re not turned on, or lose your high, it will be harder to get that dick into your ass. The hornier you are, the better it’s going to feel.
There are dozens of red hot positions you can try later on. One I love to do with my girlfriend is have her squat on a chair, with me standing behind her. She bobs her ass up and down, controlling the action for awhile, and then she holds real still while I fuck her the way I’ve wanted to all afternoon.
Another position that makes me come like a train crash is when my man straddles me cowgirl style and rides my cock so I can see all the penetration action up close.
You’ll want to get used to having your ass fucked first. But you’ll get to try all those hot Twister positions soon, I promise!
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