The biggest obstacle I have, and I bet you have, to picking up random strangers and having sex with them is our belief that we can’t just do that. But what if we can just do that?
It is a dicier prospect than it used to be in the old days, because now people are quite sensitive about unwanted sexual advances. Nowadays even flirting is verbatim in a lot of circles. It’s pretty confusing how the human race will perpetuate itself if this keeps up. Maybe that isn’t a bad outcome; that we perish as a species because nobody is allowed to make sexual advances anymore.
It is a difficult thing to understand fully. Creepy hitting on a woman was never okay ever in history. We know this. There are plenty of guys who used their positions of power to get sexual favors, and they deserved to go down.
The problem has always been that there isn’t a single concrete rule that can govern what is and what isn’t unwanted flirting. For example a person might be disgusted by the fairly innocent advances of one fellow, but then charmed and enticed by the highly suggestive advances of another. The difference? The person is attracted to one suitor, but not the other. The creepiness of it is totally subjective.
If you like someone, then them coming round your house, calling you all the time, or randomly showing up at your work will seem hot because you want to fuck them anyhow—the attention is vindicating. If you don’t feel that way, the person who shows up to your work is going to ride home in a squad car.
All this makes it harder to know if it is possible to just fuck random strangers, but I think it is still possible as an odds game. As a rule, taking a chance and saying straight up that you find somebody sexy can still be a sexy thing. Saying exactly what you want from someone sexually can still be hot. If they say no, let it go… but they might say yes!
I’ve been told a few times, sometimes during breakups even, that it was annoying that I was too deferential and I didn’t make enough moves on whichever lady it was—I didn’t assert my desires enough. The notion of being overmastered can actually be sexy… but only under the right circumstances.
I know it’s confusing! Fuck! I’d give you more advice, but I don’t want anyone to say I compelled you to do something stupid. I just want to change the world to make it a sexier happier place.
Tell us what you think