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Threesomes: Motivations Dictate the Outcome

Good Motivations:

  • You want more attention
  • You want to share your mad skills
  • You want to experiment with your sexuality
  • You want to break from a boring routine
  • You want to spice up your current relationship
  • You want to learn new skills
  • You want to move outside society’s sexual norms
  • You want to live out a fantasy

Notice all the wants in this list. Having a threesome is definitely something you must want to happen. If you are feeling unsure or hesitant you are not ready and you probably won’t have an enjoyable experience. Group sex isn’t for everyone. Maybe all the kink you need is with one other person. I’ve had a few threesomes and they only get better because I understand my motivations and my only expectation is to have fun.

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Bad Motivations:

  • You are afraid of being seen as prudish if you don’t
  • You are trying to make someone fall in love with you
  • You are doing it to please someone else
  • You are trying to make someone jealous
  • You are trying to win someone back
  • You are afraid of being dumped if you don’t

Most of these motivations circle around fear—of losing someone, or not getting someone, or not being seen the way you’d like to be. Fear can never be a motivating factor to have a threesome. This is how the third wheel goes flat.

Tell us what you think! 4 Comments

  1. Bobby

    May 4, 2012 at 1:23 am

    Thank you Lola, email the sites you recommend for me please.
    As you may gather from the user name that gmail account was created and set aside strictly for the spicy sidewalk of life.

    • Lola Page

      Lola

      May 4, 2012 at 11:02 am

      I recommend BDSMdate.com and Kink Dating for the kinky fetish stuff and bdsm lovers.

      But as you said you were potentially looking for a MMF threesome, I think you might want to check out Polyamory Dating as well. Lots of couples on there looking for a third.

      Let us know how it goes.. 🙂

  2. Bobby

    May 3, 2012 at 10:50 am

    I am bi-courious, I have done all I can to conditions myself, my butt thinks it’s a pussy, xxxbobby9in4u@gmail.com

    • Lola Page

      Lola

      May 3, 2012 at 11:21 am

      Bobby, I’ve approved your comment but I suggest that rather than posting your email in such a public forum, you join one of the dating sites where you have a great chance of finding what you’re looking for. If you’d like some site recommendations just let me know!

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