Ear Fetish and Kinks

Do you love ears? Whispering into an ear? Sucking on an earlobe? Tickling an ear with your tongue? You may have a kink for ears or a true ear fetish.

What Is an Ear Fetish?

Ears have many nerve endings and are thus considered an erogenous zone in both men and women, so it’s not surprising that they are also a fetish.

Having an ear fetish means that you are sexually aroused by ears, whether that be the sight of ears—the shape, size, angle, color, texture—and the touching or playing with ears.

There are many ways to enjoy an ear fetish or ear-related kink.

12 Ear Fetishes and Kinks

1. Ear Size and Shape Fetish

Size matters to ear fetishists. Some prefer a petite, delicate ear while others prefer a large ear that you can’t help but notice. An ear that hides perfectly behind one’s hair or one that protrudes, almost waving, can both be beautiful.

No two ears are alike, so an ear’s particular shape is often what turns someone with an ear fetish on. The curve from top to bottom, the rim and inner shape of the cartilage—all make an ear unique.

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2. Earlobe Fetish

Just as the ear is a partialism when it comes to body part fetishes, so too is the earlobe or lobule. An ear fetishist will likely be familiar with other parts of the ear such as the helix and antihelix, tragus and antitragus, fossa, concha, and canal.

The earlobe often gets the most attention because it can be easily manipulated by fingers and mouths, especially larger lobes, and it also has a soft velvety texture. Fetishists may like a small lobe that is attached to the jaw, or larger lobes that hang down may be the preference.

Read: Partialism: 17 Body Part Fetishes from Head to Toe

3. Elf Ear Fetish

Elfin or elf-like ears are sought after by fetishists for their cute aesthetic. Elf ears are usually small and delicate, with a pointy tip. They can suggest a fragile submissive nature that a dominant person may find attractive, and they lend themselves to roleplay or cosplay scenarios. Some people even go as far as getting plastic surgery to create permanent elf ears.

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4. Ear Pulling and Twisting Fetish

Ear pulling can be playful or be tied to punishment. Safe ear pulling can be practiced by a dominant, used to pull a submissive in a certain direction. Earlobes can also be twisted to cause a burning or stinging sensation.

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5. Earwax Fetish

There are lots of fetishes that are considered gross by some, and ear wax is one of them. Many people never clean their ears with implements such as Q-Tips while others see it as a ritual.

One with an earwax (cerumen) fetish will delight in finding sizable amounts of earwax and may have a preference for dark-colored wax. Some fetishists even eat earwax! Take care when cleaning or searching for wax, as the ear canal should never be penetrated too far.

Read: 20 Gross Kinks and Disgusting Fetishes (at Least to Some)

6. Kissing, Licking, and Sucking

The ear fetish can be all about ear worship, lavishing love onto ears. This can be done through kissing, licking, and sucking, which can all be fetishes of their own. Because the ear is an erogenous zone, devoting some attention onto different areas of the ears only makes sense for the arousal of both partners.

Use your lips and tongue to kiss, lick, and suck your lover’s ears. Most people don’t mind ear love, but there are some people who don’t like their ears getting wet from licking or sucking. Check in before you go this route.

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7. Whispering and Breathing

Ear fetish play may include whispering sweet nothings aka dirty talk into a lover’s sexy ear. Sidle up close to the object of your attraction and tell them what you plan to do to them when you get home.

Breathing warm moist air into and onto an ear can be a wonderful sensation for the recipient. Blowing air onto an ear that you have licked or sucked will produce that cool feeling that can tickle, tease, and titillate.

Read: Tickle Fetish and Sexual Tickling Games

8. Ear Nibbling and Biting

Nibbling and biting ears is standard fare in some foreplay handbooks. You can gently nibble a lobe between your teeth, shifting it back and forth.

Biting involves more pressure and can leave marks, sometimes intended. Biting that pierces skin is a hardcore kink fetish that some BDSM enthusiasts practice if they are into edge play or blood play. It can be dangerous because of the risk of infection, so research and practice wisely.

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9. Ear Piercing

Ear piercings and jewelry worn is a popular choice of self-expression. You can have one piercing on one ear or ten on each. Big metal hoops, flashy feathers, jewel and diamond studs—there’s something for everyone. Earrings can be used similarly to a BDSM collar, to signify a relationship between a dom and sub.

Without piercings, you can still adorn your ears with clip-on earrings and baubles, permanent or temporary, tattoos, henna art, and ear cuffs.

Read: Tattoo and Piercing Fetish

10. Earlobe Stretching

Ear stretching is a ritual that has been practiced all over the world from ancient times for the purpose of achieving social status, to scare enemies, and for aesthetics. Some ear fetishists will deliberately expand a healed piercing to wear specific jewelry made of bone, wood, metal, and more.

Stretching should be done by a trained practitioner in safe increments, using ear gauges or plugs, to minimize potential damage. 8mm is considered the “point of no return” when it comes to natural openings.

11. Animal Ears

Ear fetishes can include dress-up or role playing specific to animals. Puppy and kitten play, bunny play, pony play—these are all kinks that are enhanced by wearing ears that may be attached to masks and hoods.

Read: Pet Play: All About Animal Roleplay

12. Auralism Kinks

Auralism or sound kinks are of course related to the ear fetish. Some ear-related sound kinks include heaving breathing, dirty talk, audio-porn, erotic hypnosis, music, accent and language fetishes.

With Auralism kinks, one moves beyond the aesthetic or look of the ear to focus on the function or mechanics of ears. This can be seen as a two-for-one kink special to some.

Read: Auralism: 10 Sound Fetishes and Aural Kinks

Do you have an ear fetish? What specifically turns you on about ears?