A reader wrote us a letter, telling us about her big dick fetish and how she feels as a “size queen”.
My Big Dick Fetish
Q: Dear Jamie. Whether it’s online dating sites or Cosmopolitan or GQ, I keep hearing over and over that my needs for a huge cock don’t exist.
I understand that no one wants to make a man feel bad about himself for what he can’t help, and I know some men think their dick is small even when it’s perfectly normal, and I know that penis size doesn’t matter to everyone.
But it’s also not always one size fits all. I keep hearing that women don’t care about cock size.
Say what? I care. I want to feel something. I don’t want to feel like it’s slipping out after one inch of penetration. I want to feel spread open.
It’s a simple evolutionary fact that a big cock signals virility and masculinity and that both men and women respond to those signals. I think it does a gross disservice to both men and women to deny this.
Patting a man with a two incher on the head and saying, “No really, honey, it’s fabulous and we’re all super satisfied” is refusing to acknowledge a man’s genuine experience of limitation.
It’s also a complete erasure of some women’s satisfaction. This doesn’t mean that this man won’t have great sex, but his concerns may be genuine and we should honor that, as well as the needs of some women for a larger dude.
My sexual needs center on a big dick. I’m not ashamed of being a size queen. I can’t feel satisfied with a cigarette-sized penis. I would never shame a man who got the short end of the stick, but I won’t be sexually satisfied.
I understand that for me, it’s an exaggeration of this normal need women have, and that it’s a kink or fetish. But hey, I want what I want.
I’m furious that the only place I can really find people being honest about wanting big cocks is the gay community. Hello, ladies? I know you’re out there.
A lot of the porn for straight folks that centers around big dicks is racial, and that bothers me. I think black men are hot—don’t get me wrong—but I don’t like the tone or objectification of most of this kind of porn.
Where can I indulge my desires?
I’m just telling it like it is.
– Esther
A: Dear Esther. At first I thought, are you kidding me, the big-dick fetish is everywhere. But you’re right, when I google things like “women who love big cock” or “big dick fetish” I get a lot of gay and stuff about black cock fetish, or those articles telling guys not to worry because women don’t really care.
First of all, props on knowing yourself and not apologizing for your desires. And you’re not speaking for everyone else or putting anyone down.
Find your big dick fetish at a kinky dating site for fetishists and carry your attitude of telling it like it is to avoid being disappointed by hookups.
When you ask for “big cock” you’ll get all kinds of bragging responses, so you might ask for measurements in order to avoid different interpretations of what big means. Just say simply that you’re really turned on by huge cocks, and other men need not apply.
I did have to dig around a little, but eventually found some articles by women who are “not ashamed to be size queens,” as well as some porn. You might prowl around a bit on Tumblr, where I found lots.
Here’s hoping you find Mr. Right—and Mr. Right Now—right away!
Love,
Jamie
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