Dear Jamie,
I have a big fetish for women au naturel, and I’m not sure how to handle my disappointment to find every woman I date is smooth and hairless.
I’m relegated to jerking off to old French postcards where the showgirls have never shaved. I wouldn’t even call it a hairy fetish because I’m not drawn specifically to super hairy women, just to the beauty of nature. Vintage porn mags are also good, but I can’t really get into the staging and the ’70s haircuts! Hirsute fetish porn today is too over the top. I just want women the way they come, the whole sex session doesn’t have to be about having excess body hair.
I understand that it’s fashionable for women to keep their legs smooth and even accept that beautiful tufts of underarm hair go under the knife for fashion. But a woman’s pussy? It’s so bald, and there’s no mystery. When a woman has pubic hair, it’s like a curtain to the unveiling. It’s also what mother nature gave to keep bacteria away from the delicate parts, and to diffuse the pheromones and aromas to attract the opposite sex.
So… is it even right to consider this a kink? I just want what nature intended, but I can’t find it anywhere. – Marcus
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Marcus,
I think it’s only fair for you to be the one to define whether or not this is a kink or fetish. There are men who are into super hirsute women, and that doesn’t sound like you. But when fashion or society dictates something, whether a trend or sex things, the unseen ones eventually become taboo. And our sexuality is drawn to taboo like a moth to a flame, and that’s why we shave our pussies bald—it was shocking and hot to see it naked. Now it’s the norm. So things will swing back your way soon!
In the meantime, I don’t think it’s impossible to find what you’re looking for. Dates have asked me to shave my head bald, sit on cake, penetrate myself with fruit, step on their balls with spike heels, consent to being force-fed and fattened, take part in bukkake, become a born-again virgin, fart against their dick, learn exotic rope knotting in bondage, dress up as a Mexican wrestler, and wear a two-foot strap-on.
Many of these requests were fun, and others I said no way to. The point being, in the scheme of things we do things for our partners that we might not do otherwise, because dating and sex are about both people’s needs and wants. Being asked to go au naturel is hardly the freakiest thing a girl has ever heard!
You’re probably writing because you’ve tried that approach and it didn’t work. I say try it again. Put something sincere and straightforward in your online dating profile. Keep looking on kink dating apps but also vanilla ones. Explain the way you did to me, that you’re just looking for a woman who doesn’t shave her pussy, not for anything extreme.
Be specific about what is welcome—if extra hirsute is welcome but average is great, say so. You will have more luck I think if you happen to be seeking a long-term relationship and not just a hookup- simple logistics. It would take a woman a while to grow her pubes back to hook up with you, but if you’re dating someone and hope to pursue that, a woman might be THRILLED to put down her razor and let her hair down!
Best of luck, Marcus!
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