Where to Find Kinky Gay Sex Online

Looking for kinky gay men but don’t know where to start?

If you want to meet a lover who shares your fetish or fantasy, online dating is a great place to start.

Gay BDSM Date is the most popular gay kink site among our readers, but it’s not the only one. The sites below are our recommendations for finding new partners to explore your kink with.

Best Kinky Gay Kink Sites

Disclosure: I have or had a full membership at all of the following sites for kinky gay sex. Once I’m comfortable recommending a site I sometimes use links that provide a small commission when a reader decides to upgrade. It costs nothing extra but helps keep our kinky blog alive.


This is the largest site you’ll find for gay kink dating and probably the most fully-featured as well. Create a profile and check out members streaming videos, enjoy some video chat, then do a search for local kinky men to see who’s looking near you.

Gay BDSM Date boasts millions of members and has a lot to offer. The site and its members are very open-minded, kink-positive, and love to show off. Because nudity is allowed, this gay kink site is a paradise for both voyeurs and exhibitionists.  Don’t miss this huge community of kinky men!

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Our second choice is Gay BDSM Dating. They’ve been around a long time and as such have a decent-sized database of men into fetish and BDSM. The free membership allows you to search local men to see how many are near you but that’s about it. You’ll have to upgrade to get the full features but you should be able to get a taste of what’s in store with your free join.

Note that Gay BDSM Dating is probably only going to work for guys in the US because the site isn’t worldwide like Gay BDSM Date. It’s also a much simpler gay kink site and doesn’t feature video or much beyond profile shopping. Some may prefer this though as it puts the focus more on meeting up, rather than playing around online.

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Best of luck on your path to kinky gay sex and happy hooking up!

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