When you meet someone for the first time, it’s not always easy to tell if they’d be down for your kinks. In my experience, it really is the quiet unassuming folks who tend to surprise me most with their fantasies and fetishes.
Even when you get to know someone and build trust, it can be daunting to let your kink out of the bag for the first time. Is she going to let you suck her toes, tie her up, or clam her nipples? Some fetishes will send a girl running! This is why we advocate joining a kinky dating site to take some of the guess work out.
If you do find yourself on a first date, whether through online dating or a set-up from your best friend, here are a few signs your date might be into the kink.
5 Signs She Might Be Kinky
1. She wears fetish gear. What’s this you ask? Picture your date in a short leather mini skirt, fishnet stockings, and black patent stilettos. Okay, you get the picture. And this may turn you on whether you have a leather, stocking, high heel or foot fetish. Maybe she’s wearing a studded collar. These are all pretty hot… and might mean she’s kinky.
2. She goes commando. But how can you tell? Well the only way really is if she’s wearing a thin, clingy dress or skirt and there’s no pantyline, or maybe she blatantly crosses her legs and gives you a view… or maybe she tells you!
3. She talks a lot about sex. This usually isn’t first-date conversation, but someone who is comfortable with her own body or on the prowl is likely to cut to the chase.
4. She jokes about BDSM activities. Again, not usually what comes up when you meet someone new, but if she’s into kink, she may be testing your comfort level with things like bondage or group sex.
5. She asks intimate questions. She may ask if you’ve ever tried a threesome, or what kind of porn you like watching, or what your wildest fantasies are. These may all point to what she really likes. She may also be checking your sexual compatibility.
The long and short of it is: you can never really know, and you should never assume… but if you do see some of these signs, you can at least get your hopes up.
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