Do you and your girlfriend fantasize about what it might be like to add a third to your relationship? Do you feel that the best part of trying it would be all the hot stories you’d get to tell one another?
For a lot of people, that’s the draw of being in an open relationship. Sure, jealousies flare up now and again, but that can be a good thing. Jealousy can make us appreciate what we have all the more, and a little competition can really heat things up in bed.
Here are some tips for how to share all the juicy details of your illicit affairs with a lover who can’t wait to hear them.
Make Sure Everyone Signs Off on Sharing
Before you talk about anything that happens in the privacy of the bedroom, be sure to get your partner’s consent. It’s a violation to share things without permission, and it can lead to serious repercussions in terms of trust. If you added a third to your relationship with the sole intention of using your time together as a tool for fueling the desire between you and your primary partner, you need to make that completely clear right from the start.
Let your new partner know what you’re looking to get out of your time together, and let her decide if she’s cool with it. Who knows? It might turn her on all the more, knowing that your steamy encounters will benefit more than just the two of you.
Focus on the Good Stuff
Learn what your partner likes to hear, then edit your stories accordingly. Does she like to imagine things from your point of view, or would she rather know what it feels like to be your other partner, pleasured beyond the point of no return by the touch of your hand?
Have a conversation about what your girlfriend considers to be the sexiest part of sharing, or simply wing it and pay attention to how she responds. It helps if you’re a good storyteller to begin with, but you can always develop those skills as you go along.
Embellish When Needed
Speaking of Storytelling skills, the ability to embellish details here and there is an excellent one to hone. I’m not suggesting you lie (that would negate the purpose of gathering real life experiences to share). Just spend more time and energy on describing the exciting parts, and put some creativity into it.
Again, it’s important to inform your other partner that you intend to use your hookups as the inspiration for some creative nonfiction. And always be sure to keep the stories private.
Why Tell When You Can Show?
If storytelling isn’t your thing, why not offer a sexy demonstration? Take your girlfriend on a real life journey through all the excitement of last night’s hookup, telling her what’s about to come next in the form of some super hot dirty talk. Or record your steamy encounters and play them for her! Homemade porn, anyone?
There are many ways to satisfy your girlfriend’s voyeuristic tendencies. As long as your other partner has given her consent to be filmed and watched, what’s the harm?
Bring Your New Partner in on the Storytelling
If the three of you are game, invite your new partner over for some drinks, settle back on the bed and let the sharing begin. There are different ways to do this. Your new partner could do a play by play of your last sexy time together, or direct the action between you and your girlfriend, helping you to re-enact things in real time.
Depending on the vibe, you might even find yourself in the middle of a threesome, and that’s a story you could enjoy telling for years to come!
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