It’s a question many of us have asked ourselves, “Is it too early to be forthcoming about my kinks?” It can be scary to think of putting it all out there only to be rejected or, worse yet, ridiculed. Sex is a difficult thing to talk about under any circumstance, let alone when dropping an adult diaper fetish into the mix.
I say, be brave. If your date is going well and you feel a legitimate connection forming, what’s the harm in being honest? It’s going to come out at some point anyway. Here’s why it’s best to talk about it sooner than later.
4 Reasons to Share Your Kinks Sooner than Later
1. You Can’t Assume Anything
Just because she wears leather and a studded collar doesn’t mean your date is into puppy play, master-slave relationships, or some other type of BDSM play. Maybe she’s more vanilla than ice cream and just likes to dress that way. Lots of people don’t wear their sexual proclivities on their sleeves. Think of all the corporate kink lovers who trade their shirts and ties for harnesses and shackles after 5pm.
Don’t expect someone’s appearance or mannerisms to take the place of honest conversation when it comes to what you’re looking for in bed.
2. You Deserve Happiness
Dating is about finding someone who wants the same things you do. How do you expect to do that if you’re not willing to open up about your kinky desires? Why keep them a secret? Don’t you want to find joy and satisfaction with someone who’s just as freaky as you?
The best way to find fellow kinksters is to search kinky dating sites. Use a site that caters specifically to your tastes and let your profile speak for you. Spell out your needs clearly and unapologetically then let the right people find you. Don’t be ashamed of your kink. Share it loud and proud!
To find the right site for you, see our Guide to the Best Kinky Dating Sites.
3. Life Is Short
Don’t waste any more of your limited time on this planet sleeping with the wrong people. The more you put off sharing your kink, the more time you waste on lackluster sex or no sex at all. Take the chance, and put it all out there! So what if your date spits out her drink in shock, or says nothing and leaves?
There are plenty of women out there who would be more than happy to dive deep into your kink-filled fantasies. Share your kinks well before the third date. That way you’ll both feel more relaxed, knowing there won’t be any big surprises.
For more on sharing your kinks, read How and When to Share Your Kinks.
4. Kink Requires Trust
Failing to share something as important as your kinks early on, could be considered dishonest, and we all know that kink and trust go hand in hand.
Start things off right with open communication and the knowledge that it might take several dates before you find that person who you not only find attractive, but who’s into the same things you are. It would be a shame to ruin a good thing by holding back and creating doubt. Don’t make her wonder what other things you’re hiding.
How long do you wait before letting your kinks out of the bag? Please share in the comments!
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