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How and When to Share Your Kinks

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Here is an interesting topic. I often find myself sitting at home, wishing I could meet a person who was into so-and-so kink. But how do I meet these people?

Yes, Fetish Hookups exists. Yes, there are other kinky dating sites, yes there are meet-up groups. Sometimes, though, the hokey nature of a community devoted to a particular kink just kills the vibe for me.

The difficulty of putting your kinks out there.

There’s a part of me that thinks: why would I join any club that would have me as a member? Or maybe my kink just feels less special if I know there are a bunch of other like-minded individuals doing the same thing as me.

I mean, would I really want to share a fondue with a whole lot of people who like pissing in each other’s mouths? Maybe? There are people who love licking airplane toilet seats, so what do I know?

Finding someone who shares your fetish or kinks.

Dirty talk is something I care about a lot, and I don’t always get. I used to have this lady who would just give me handjobs and say the dirtiest, most fucked-up fantasies to me while she did it. Man, I used to cum ropes! But a lot of people are shy to dirty talk, or worse yet, they find it silly or embarrassing.

I think though, that you can gauge a person’s penchant for dirty talk by seeing how into storytelling they are, and how their mind moves imagination-wise when you talk with them about other subjects. I often mention that I write these posts about relationships and kink. If a woman is eager to hear them, and seems to get excited when I read her the dirtiest ones, she might well be a dirty talker!

How to Share Kinks before You Meet in Person

What if a kink is not mainstream, or a turn off?

Piss play is something I’ve dabbled in, but I go back and forth about finding it sexy. For some reason, that same lady who was skilled in the art of dirty talk also got really turned me on by peeing in front of me.

I knew a lady who used to pick up homeless guys and bring them home to have sex with. However, she wouldn’t fuck them until they got in the shower and pissed on her. I was never sure if I found this entire scenario hot or not. I think it was so fucked up that I did find it sexy.

A creative way I thought of to see if a woman might drink pee is to tell her you’re diabetic. Diabetic people (I know this from personal experience) have extremely sweet-tasting pee. The ancient Greeks first learned this when they saw how attracted ants were to the piss pools of diabetics.

Tell her you have very sweet pee that tastes like honey, and see how she responds. If she wets her lips, it’s on! Offer to let her taste it, and see where it goes.

What to Do when Your Kink Turns Her Off

I like to joke around here, but it’s definitely a subject I struggle with.

How do you share your kinks? When do you know it’s okay to share? Let us know in the comments!

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