So, you’d love to meet trans women near you.
Whether you’ve always been attracted to trans women, or you’re just curious, it can be complicated to meet trans women for dating and sex. Whether you have a bona fide “thing” for transgender women, or are just open to dating all women, it’s still a challenge.
Dating Trans Women
Some guys have a very strong attraction to transgender women in particular. While this would once have been considered a kink or fetish (and before that, a “perversion” or deviance), today we rightly see transgender people as human beings and not objects. This is affirming for both trans people and trans-attracted people.
However, guys who love trans women have historically been vilified for being freaks, and also judged by the objects of their desire for objectifying humans based on body parts. Guys were sometimes pejoratively called “tranny chasers” which belittled both the transgender woman and her paramour. Nonetheless, this came about when guys who had a “thing” were only interested in sex and were ashamed of trans women for dating or love.
Today we might say “trans admirer,” yet that is also becoming a bit passé. And “admirer” feels like a euphemism although it expresses what it means. More often, we’re using “trans-amorous” today, or just skipping the label altogether.
Other guys might be curious or open-minded or inclusive, but do not find trans women any more or less attractive than other women. They are simply open to dating anyone they connect with.
So, if you are one of these groups of guys, how do you meet transgender women near you?
How to Meet Trans Women
1. Reflect your interest on your dating profiles.
When you mention that you are looking for women who are into BDSM, want to marry, into threesomes, or whatever it is you are looking to meet women for, you can simply state your openness.
“Looking to meet cis and trans women” is straightforward. More subtly, you could write, “All women welcome,” but that might not be true if you have specified you are looking for a specific cultural group.
Personally I find it best to be direct so that the transgender women you are looking for don’t have to guess.
2. Meet trans women at transgender dating sites.
You can go directly to dating sites like TSmeet.com that cater to trans women and their admirers.
For more options on where to meet trans women online, see a good detailed list of dating sites for trans women and admirers over at I Love TS:
3. Be an ally to trans persons.
You shouldn’t become an ally in order to find sex. But if you ARE an ally, being more vocal or involved will naturally mean you make more transgender friends. The likelihood of meeting someone you hit it off with increases.
See the Rainbow Resource Center’s guide for dating trans folks.
4. Get friendly in local and online kink communities.
Dating trans women isn’t necessarily kinky or part of a gender kink, and not all trans women are into BDSM. But kink communities are generally more open-minded and welcoming, and they are diverse and inclusive.
If you want to meet trans women into kink, see our Guide to Kinky Dating, as the majority of the sites we recommend are trans-friendly.
Read: 8 Tips to Find Your Kink Community
5. Ask a trans woman out.
This may seem like a no-brainer, but chances are, if you want to meet transgender women for dating, sex, and love, you might have to ask transgender women out! Maybe you’ve got your eye on a woman at your local coffee shop. Maybe your sports injury doctor makes your heart beat faster.
Sure, she might turn you down. She might tell you she’s married or only dates women. She might not be interested—but as with any woman, you have to take your chances when you meet a trans woman you like.
Read: 8 Tips for Sex with a Woman with a Penis
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