There are more than four kinks for every women that are always going to be off the BDSM table. To make up for this disappointment, a woman will be sure to surprise you with a few that she does have a thing for or is willing to try.
I always say that patience is key when it comes to exploring kink with a partner, especially if the relationship is new. I don’t know a single woman who would let a man tie her up on the first night together—not a safe bet is all. If you put the time in, share your fantasies, talk dirty over drinks, and watch some porn together, you’ll find some sweet surprises in the bedroom.
Now, back to the fantasies and fetishes you have that have a slim chance of becoming a reality. Most of these don’t happen due to safety concerns. There are too many stories of kinks gone awry, or newbies trying something without doing the research that’s needed first. Some kinks are no joke, folks.
4 Kinks that Most Women Don’t Want to Try
1. Fisting. While I’ve always been fascinated by the idea of fisting—how do you get it in there, how do you get it out—it still makes my skin crawl. I don’t want a man’s hand inside me, thanks, and I’ve never talked to another woman who wants to try it either. It’s not an easy feat and if you’re not extremely careful, you might get caught and she might panic… not a good scenario.
2. Erotic Electrostimulation. I saw this demonstrated at a sex show once, and my eyes almost bugged out of my head. The woman was covered in black marks from what looked like jumper cables pinching various parts of her body. Maybe getting a shock from an outlet as a child scarred me, but I just don’t get the thrill. And why is it always the woman being shocked in porn?
3. Breath Play. Show me a woman who wants a man’s hands around her neck? This is a nightmare, not a sexy fantasy, for most. I know it can be played out in other ways beyond pseudo strangling, but it feels creepy and threatening. I say if you can’t find a gal to play, go the route of auto asphyxiation… just be careful!
4. Anal. This may seem like such a tame kink to put on to this list, but most ladies just don’t like it. And my source for this isn’t just women, but men. Half the men I meet say they’ve never done anal! I have to say I’m a bit shocked. I thought everyone at least tries anal before closing the back door. It’s not my fave, but I will do it if it’s a big turn on for a guy I really like.
If you’re not one to give up, then be wise and look for your compatible kinky partner on a niche dating site that caters to your particular turn on. Sex workers who specialize in BDSM are also available for fulfilling fantasies if all else fails. Personally I just watch porn scenarios for the crazy kinks, and often it’s not something I’d like to participate in, but just be aroused by!
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