Maybe you’ve wondered how much porn is healthy or had to defend your sexual interests to others, but I think that kinky porn has much to offer.
Explore your individual kinks alone.
There are lots of kinky ways to play solo, but most of the time, masturbation is a utilitarian act, not an elaborate one. Whether kinky or vanilla, we tend to masturbate to get off, not to get it on.
Porn that caters to preferred fetishes, or explores new ones, allows us to use that release time while imagining the things that truly turn us on, even if we aren’t using props and costumes with other people.
Sort out your likes and dislikes.
It’s much easier to negotiate what you want from the kink playground, and your partners, when you know what that is.
We can not only discover the things that turn us on through experimenting with a wide variety of fetishes in porn, but also avoid negative experiences by recognizing what turns us off. Knowing what to avoid helps us keep our actual experiences affirming and positive.
Learn about a variety of fetishes and kinks.
Almost everyone has an imaginative sex life, even if what they actually enjoy acting out is limited to a few favorite kinks or the basics.
Just because we fantasize about something or it turns us on in porn doesn’t mean real life will play itself out in the same way, or that we want it to come true. Porn gives us access to that variety and allows us to travel far and wide in the safety and comfort of our own minds.
Affirm your identity.
Whether you come out or keep your private life private, being kinky can be isolating before you come to terms with your desires.
Most of us transform into sexual beings during our young adult years, wondering whether there’s something wrong with us or whether our feelings, responses, and experiences are normal. Seeing people enjoy themselves sexually helps us understand that taste and fantasy is extremely diverse.
Become more flexible to please your partners.
Experimenting with new things and expanding boundaries are great joys of sexual discovery. In the fetish lifestyle, you might be concerned with how to enact something you’re not familiar with, what to do or how it might feel.
Exploring experiences we want to try for our partners through porn can give us some of the information we need, and show us in advance what we might like or not like about it.
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