5 Reasons to Try Her Kinks

How many times has a lover indulged your threesome fantasy or foot fetish? Maybe it was a dark fantasy that a woman was able to help you bring to life. There are many reasons to try out a kink that isn’t our own, not the least of which is pleasing a partner.

5 Reasons to Try Her Kinks

1. Playing it her way will make her more open to enjoying your kinks.

I have to admit, as adventurous as I am, if you never meet me halfway or risk something new, I won’t be terribly inspired to indulge your passions.

2. You’re much more likely to meet someone compatible from the pool of “kinky women” than the pool of “kinky women into my specific kink.”

My friend confided in me this week that he’s only met three kinky women who are into pissing on his face. None of them were the right fit for a longer term relationship.

I asked him whether he had looked for Ms. Right among women who liked to top or dominate. Even if water sports wasn’t precisely their thing, using it as a form of domination has been fun for me in the past.

Dating kinky women will likely yield a more compatible partner willing to indulge him. So guys, be willing to meet women for fetish play experiments you haven’t tried, because you might find someone GGG who is also perfect for you outside the bedroom!

3. New experiences are hot.

You don’t have to give up your main thrills to enjoy a wider variety of sex.

In fact, variety is often the key to fulfilling sex. If your main kink has lost some of its allure in real life, maybe that’s because it’s become routine.

Even the most vanilla, conservative monogamous couples spice things up in the bedroom. We’re not robots who get off over and over to the exact same thing. The slightest variation makes sex sizzle again. Don’t be afraid to try things. Guys are sometimes unwilling to explore a kink because they don’t know how to do it and aren’t familiar with it, but that’s the whole point! Let yourself be awkward, virgin, untrained, clumsy. Keep a sense of humor and dive in.

4. Experimenting is how we find ourselves.

You might think you know your kinky mind inside and out. but we only have the context of our own experiences.

Maybe you have a thing for dressing up like a nurse. It doesn’t exist in a vacuum. It’s something that turned you on from a movie or from a hospital or a woman you thought was hot—an experience along the way. If you get off from humiliation or bondage, it might be a psychological release of family drama, or it might be muscle memory, where your body recalls your first epic sex experiments. Who knows?

The point is that our most entrenched kinks come from our psyche and from actual contexts, whether or not we remember them. We can find more things that thrill us and create more contexts for pleasure by expanding our explorations.

5. Fantasy and reality are very different. You might really love doing things you thought you wouldn’t, or vice versa.

Believe it or not, I once assumed that I wouldn’t like threesomes or group sex. I’m so passionate about a person and so into them at the moment, I just couldn’t imagine my attention being all over the map.

Boy, was I wrong. I feel transcendent when I’m with two or more people.

Oddly enough, it was the opposite for a male friend of mine. He’d been jerking off to the idea of an MFF threesome forever, but when he finally tried a few, he found it was distracting and didn’t have the intimate sizzle he’d expected.

The only way to know how we respond to different activities and people is to go for it and see where it leads!