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A Man’s Guide for Taking It Up the Ass

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Too many of you might still be missing out on a world of pleasure because your asshole causes you undue trepidation. You’ve jerked off to pegging porn so many times your dick is raw, but you still haven’t taken the plunge.

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Here’s how to get over yourself, and experience anal delight firsthand.

Start solo.

If you haven’t explored your nether region yet, the best way to get to know what to expect is to try it yourself. You can get a sense of what sensations to anticipate, and intensify your masturbation orgasms.

Prioritize hygiene.

A woman doesn’t want to finger your dirty ass.

We are aware, as you are, where we are going. We know there is bacteria and we know there are traces of shit inside, so you don’t need to obsess. Just give the ol’ crack a good soapy sponging for the best presentation. Using condoms on toys or fingers is not a bad idea because it’s easy to toss anything that might get soiled.

Get a few butt plugs.

You can experiment solo, or with your partner. Start with small anal plugs, and when your ass gets comfortable accepting it, you can try another size. You can start any session off with the small guy, and lots of us like to put it in our ass when we’re having sex or being restrained during d/s role play.

Use toys only designed for anal penetration.

Your ass is not a vagina, where nothing can get lost. The ass gobbles up anything it can! There are miles of intestines if said object goes too far. It is EXTREMELY COMMON for people to stick stuff up their butts, so no need to be embarrassed, but save yourself their hell and medical bills by using special anal toys.

Dildos designed for anal penetration and butt plugs are different because they have a flared base for safety. Don’t “make do” with carrots, other dildos, or anything else that looks like it might work.

Lube it up.

The anus does not lubricate the way a vagina does. Don’t rely on saliva. Use plenty of lube for everything from tender tracing outside on the anal ring, to strap-on fucking. Keep the tube handy, and don’t be afraid to keep adding more.

In time you might need less lubrication and be comfortable with a dab of glide. But lubrication is the difference between “ouch” and “fuck, fuck me harder, deeper, bigger.”

Relax and enjoy.

It can really be difficult to relax, especially if you are worried about pain, hung up on exit-only thinking which limits the range of pleasure available to you, or dwelling on whether or not it’s manly to receive anal sex (spoiler alert: you’re a man, so yes it is.) Other reasons you might be tense include worrying about cleanliness or being ticklish.

You will find relaxing much easier after you’ve experienced the penetration a few times. At the first hint of pain, you might want to cancel, but remember to relax because the pain is caused by your tension! Take it slow with lots of lube, and soon you’ll be begging for more.

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