Are you looking for cunnilingus ideas and pussy licking tips to take her to new heights?
Whether you’re confident or shy, everyone can benefit from occasionally revisiting the most important sex techniques for those who make love to women.
Cunnilingus Ideas to Drive Her Wild
1. Start Slow and Teasingly
Men may go from soft to rock hard battering ram when the new redhead passes their desk in the office. But women are turned on slowly as their arousal builds. Even if she is wet and wild and ready to go fast, she can always go higher. Did you know that women rarely reach their potential height of arousal?
Similarly, even if she’s not really in the mood, you can get her in the mood by taking your time.
This is one of the most important cunnilingus tips. Barely touch her. Just kiss her on the thighs, tease her lips a little, flick her clit gently, and better yet, start while she’s still dressed. Don’t move her panties aside until they’re already soaked.
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2. Lick It
It’s called pussy licking for a reason. While a blowjob is some licking and a lot of sucking, here you want to lick her, over and over, teasingly at first, and everywhere, with different strokes, circular strokes, long licks, and make your way to rhythmic licking.
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3. Suck Her Lips and Clit
Take her all in. Suck on her labia majora, on her inside lips, and on her most sensitive zone, the clitoris. Suck gently, suck harder, move away, return.
4. Nibble and Bite Gently
Nibbling is a key cunnilingus tip. Most women find gently biting feels sensational.
5. Let Your Fingers Help You
Touch her everywhere while licking her pussy. Reach up and roam around her breasts and nipples. Squeeze her butt and thighs. Stroke the arches of her foot. Tease her belly with lingering, trailing touch. Explore her vulva, vagina, and clitoris with your fingertips. Push a couple of fingers inside her while you’re working on her clit with your mouth.
One overlooked cunnilingus tip is to gently spread her lips open with your fingers to expose those sensitive folds and stretch her pussy while you’re licking away.
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6. Add In a Sex Toy
It would be ideal if you could lick her pussy while you were fucking her, but that is impossible. You can penetrate her with a dildo though and work it while you lick and suck. And experiment with clitoral suction toys as well.
Read: 5 Kinky Ways to Use a Dildo with Your Lover
7. Worship Her Pussy
Pussy worship is a divine art! Practicing pussy worship is a great cunnilingus tip because it will teach you everything important about pussy licking: how to slow down, how to spend the time, how to focus completely on her, how to use all of your senses.
Pussy worship involves pussy gazing, adoring, gratitude, touching, admiring, appreciation, kissing, licking. No need to run off to other things when she comes. That’s the whole point, of course, and you can continue to worship.
Read: Pussy Worship: How to Serve a Woman’s Vagina
8. Try Clit Tapping
Tapping techniques can add rhythm and variety to cunnilingus. You can also try slapping gently with the palm of your hand over her whole vulva. You can “spank” her pussy to bring extra blood flow to the area, for increased sensitivity and arousal.
9. Enjoy Facesitting
Who doesn’t want to be surrounded and smothered by pussy? Let her drive by kneeling over your face. You can use a queening chair as well, which is designed for her to sit on over your face while you work.
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10. Edge Her with Orgasm Control
As part of BDSM play, or just a great cunnilingus tip, you can use orgasm control. Take her to the edge and then leave her at the brink. Do it again. Or play with orgasm denial and ruined orgasms.
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11. Turn It Into a 69
While an important cunnilingus technique is to focus completely on her and give yourself over to her pleasure, there are times when mutual oral serves the sake of variety, domination play, or when she’s simply begging to take a male lover in her mouth.
Experiment with different positions for 69. If both lovers are women, 69 can be an incredibly transcendent session where both women experience the thrill of both service and sensation at the same time.
Read: 69ing Tips for Kinky Couples
12. Follow Her Directions
Let her lead your hands, mouth, and timing. She is the expert on her own body.
13. Listen and Look for Clues and Cues
Pussy licking should be an almost meditative act. You can really learn to tune in to her body language. A small shudder, a push against you during a specific motion—these are the kinds of clues you want to pay attention to.
14. Keep Going for Multiple Orgasms
Patience is all that is required for experimenting with multiple orgasms for women. Women are capable of endless orgasms! However, for some women, it can take a lot of time. But what’s the rush? Take her there, then take her there again.
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15. Vary Your Cunnilingus Positions
Lick her pussy from your knees while she stands with her legs open above you. Or try it with her on the counter or table, legs spread. Classic of course is her on her back with her legs up, but she can lay on her stomach, too. She can sit on your face. She can sit on the edge of a chair.
A cunnilingus tip is to use your imagination! See if you can come up with ten different positions.
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16. Add Kink or BDSM Play
Use pussy eating as an essential part of sex play. It can be part of a variety of adventures, kinks, role plays, and BDSM scenes. You can experiment with new kinks and fetishes while eating her out. What about golden showers, bondage, spanking, kitten cosplay, or vampire fetishes? To name a few!
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17. Ask for Feedback
A really important cunnilingus tip is simply asking for feedback. This isn’t about how you measure up: every woman is different. What drove your ex wife wild won’t work with a new woman. Women know that eating another woman is not simply about doing what she enjoys.
While most women enjoy the full gamut of pussy play, when it’s time to come, it usually takes specific motions and pressures. Ask her. Do rhythmic circles work, or gentle sucking? Some women can’t orgasm if the clitoris is exposed because it’s too sensitive. Some need that agonizing sensation to let go.
18. Let Her Know You Crave It
A very important cunnilingus technique is simply to let her know this isn’t just about doing her a favor. Most women are most aroused when their partner experiences pleasure. And some feel awkward being the focus of attention or they feel vulnerable taking center stage or making someone wait.
Many women are self conscious about their bodies, their weight, the smell and taste of their genitals, how their pussy looks, their body hair. It’s just part of our socialization, our biology, and our psyche.
A very simple way to make pussy eating fantastic for her is to let her know you love it and that you need it for hot sex. Let her know you crave the taste and want more. Let her know that her natural scents make your cock hard. Let her know it’s all about the way she bucks against your tongue when she comes. Let her know how much you want it.
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