Do you fantasize about a nice face fuck, dominating her in every way, with images of grabbing her hair and pushing your cock down her throat? Do you think about taking his cock in your mouth, and having it slammed roughly, over and over, past your gag line?
Face fucking is a common part of BDSM sex, seen frequently in play that involves domination and submission, erotic humiliation, or degradation. Milder or gentler versions are also common practices for people who don’t identify as kinky.
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What Is Face Fucking?
Face fucking is an active kind of oral sex, where the person receiving oral sex actually does the fucking; that is, controls the play.
In fellatio or cunnilingus, usually the person giving oral does the performing. With a face fuck, the dominant lover “takes” the mouth and the face of their partner and controls the movements and intensity. Rather than passively receiving the licks and sucks their partner provides, they push themselves in, thrust, and often hold the head or face while gyrating.
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Face fucking can be seen as aggressive and is considered bad manners in vanilla arrangements, because the face-fucked party can be overwhelmed, gag, or vomit. Even when a person enjoys being submissive, consent is of course essential.
Face fucking is sometimes called irrumatio, but this is considered an imperfect term because it means “to force receptive male oral sex.” Depending on your personal tastes, the roll of irrumatio may sound more erotic than face fucking or vice versa. But it doesn’t fully fit the situation of consensual face fucking between people of all genders and orientations, and is not often used today.
Face fucking is a more active form of facesitting, which is often used interchangeably. Face sitting, in turn, is called queening or kinging, depending who is in charge.
Face fucking could be described as the “fucking” part of face sitting, with face sitting as a whole being about more than face fucking, and including the genitals as a form of bondage, as well as worship, inhaling, gazing, smothering, and sometimes urinating, depending on fetish preferences.
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How to Face Fuck
Classic man-on-top face fucking goes a little something like this:
- She lays down on her back with a few pillows under her head.
- He straddles her chest just under her chin, kneeling on either side of her face.
- Her hands are free to stroke his stomach, ass, balls, or push him back if necessary and allowed.
- He can push his cock into her mouth, thrust at his preferred intensity and depth, and can hold her face or head in his hands.
- Face fucking should always start slowly so that the receptive mouth and throat can acclimatize to breathing and get used to the sensations.
- This is a great position for finishing in her throat with her swallowing everything.
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Face Fucking Positions
Sitting and Standing
Some, including this woman writing, would argue that the classic face fuck position sees him standing and her sitting on a low stool, whatever works to get the heights matched comfortably between his cock and her face.
He is in full control and can use his hands to assert his dominance, moving her face, head, shoulders, and body and commanding her position. He is totally free to thrust and grind at will. There is far more liberty for both in this position so each can be comfortable.
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Upside Down
Very often the male-on-female face fuck position you’ll see in porn or in instruction diagrams has the female or submissive male (for guy on guy) laying on her back with her head over the side of the bed. He stands over her and face fucks her like this.
This can provide an outstanding angle for face fucking action, and it’s a spectacular option for finishing with a facial.
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Queen on Top
Face fucking is not just for guy on girl or man to man. Domination by the queen or goddess or domme or dominatrix can include face fucking, with her straddling his head and demanding intense oral.
Female-on-male face fucking is more literal to the whole face than guy on girl, because she can grind her pussy against his nose, mouth, eyes and his whole head. Many submissive men love the sensation of being smothered and surrounded by pussy this way as she rides.
Straddling his face while she kneels on the bed is common, but if a bench, massage table, or suitable counter exists for him to lie down on, on his back, where she can stand over his face and grind that way, this is freaking amazing!
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Advanced Face Fucking Play
For those into more intense BDSM, there are ways to incorporate face fucking into some hardcore practices.
Deep Throat Face Fucking
Deep throating is where she takes the whole cock down. It takes practice and deep relaxation and control on the part of the woman. In face fucking, some couples enjoy going all the way with deep throat thrusts.
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Forced Face Fuck
The forced face fuck is a form of consensual non-consent play. CNC is when a submissive consents to acts that appear spontaneous or forced, or, just as often, wants to fulfill a rape fantasy of being overpowered. The rape fantasy may include being face fucked.
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Bondage Facefuck
Face fucking can be a form of bondage play, where the dominant is pinning the submissive’s face and having their way with it. It can also be part of a BDSM scene.
The head, like any part of the body, can be bound. There are bondage hoods with mouth zippers, for example. There are bondage masks with belts and buckles that can be restrained. Or a person may be in a bondage position, with body restrained, when face fucking takes place.
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Face fucking Safety
Aggressive face fucking can sometimes include involuntary vomiting. This can be distressing and upsetting, so avoid deep throating if the submissive finds it uncomfortable or feels themselves retching.
For those into hardcore BDSM who find the humiliation and degradation of throwing up erotic, or for those with a vomit fetish this can be the goal of face fucking. It is sometimes seen in porn. Take caution—for some, it doesn’t take much, as this is an involuntary response of the gag reflex.
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