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How to Keep Your BDSM Lifestyle Confidential

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While there are some Kink Lovers who like to let their freak flag fly, the majority prefer to keep their BDSM lifestyle under wraps for a variety of reasons.

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Tips and Tricks to Keep Your Kinky Lifestyle Confidential

Keep your cross-dressing under wraps. If you’re a man who likes to wear women’s undergarments, don them behind closed doors. If you do want to wear them on the inside of your clothing while out and about, make sure to check that your shirt stays tucked in so that no ruffles or frills peak out from under your dress shirt.

Take a break from the good vibrations in quiet surroundings. If you’re wearing a vibrating device inside your anus or vagina, make sure to turn it off before you go into a board meeting.  When the request is made for all phones to be turned off, take that as a cue turn off your own device.

Avoid doing kinky web cam action. It might seem like a good idea and a fun way to make some coin, but your boss will definitely tune in one afternoon, while looking for a quick toss. On Monday morning, he’ll surely ask where you got that latex bondage suit, and possibly ask for threesome tips.

Don’t waive to your dominatrix in public. If you see her on the subway, don’t yell, “Mistress Brittany! I’m looking forward to sucking your toes and licking your boots this Friday!” Always be discreet when it comes to kinky play partners who you run into outside of your sexual liaisons.

Use a non-identifying handle on kinky dating sites. Once you’ve met someone, you can share your name. And once you’ve built some trust, you can open up about other parts of your life.

Remember to close your curtains. Just because you can’t see out of your windows, it doesn’t mean that people can’t see in. Maybe it isn’t such a good thing to let your neighbors know that you like to wear adult diapers and play in a giant crib.

….maybe it isn’t such a good thing to let your neighbors know that you dress as a human-sized squirrel and give head to random pizza delivery men and taxi drivers

…maybe it isn’t such a good idea to let people know that every Thursday night you cover your living room floor with a plastic sheet and star in your own bukkake party.

…maybe it isn’t such a good idea to let people know that you vacuum seal your boyfriend inside a giant freezer bag and then masturbate onto the plastic over his face while he gasps for air!

You should do whatever you do to get off and have fun, but remember that the more public you make your proclivities, the harder it will be to pretend you’re swimming with the current. Everybody judges, and that can make life harder. Everybody is a hypocrite, and mostly they judge because they’re trying to cover up their own shit.

Decide how much the world knows on your own terms, not theirs!

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