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How to Step Up Your Online Dating Game

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If your kinky online dating profile isn’t attracting the attention you’re looking for, chances are it could use some tender loving care. An upgrade might be all that’s required to get the results.

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Tips to Up Your Online Dating Game and Get the Results You Want

Stop waiting for women to contact you.

Online dating isn’t just posting your picture and waiting for droves of kink-loving babes to flood your inbox.

Just like the offline-dating world, despite modern times, it’s still more common for a guy to ask a woman out than vice versa. Take the initiative and respond to women’s profiles more often.

Be more specific.

Repeat after me: overly generalized profiles do not cast a wider net. No, it means “this guy is boring” and “this guy can’t tell me anything about himself for some reason.”

Stop using general adjectives and categories and start using more detail, whether in describing yourself or your interests.

For example, instead of “active” or “fit” say, “I coach at-risk kids soccer in my community” or “I love jogging around the lake and hiking nature trails whenever I get the chance.” Instead of saying, “My friends say I’m fun” go for, “I’m obsessed with goofy road-trip movies or romcoms with Owen Wilson.”

Broaden your horizons.

Yes, I did just follow up “be more specific” with “be less specific.”

What I mean is, let yourself be surprised by giving people a chance. Try out some new fetishes if no one hot is looking for yours, or plan a date with someone who doesn’t totally grab you (it could be her profile, not her, that doesn’t quite cut it.)

Write a bio.

Seems obvious, so why do so many guys put the bare bones down, or leave it blank?

Your picture won’t speak for itself. Whether you’re average or a ten, no one wants to hook up with or date a man with zero personality.

Revamp your photo selection.

We can tell when you’ve used the one photo from four years ago where you looked like a Greek god by accident.

And please, get rid of pictures where you’ve edited your ex out. It’s tacky, and makes us wonder why you can’t take a selfie right now and upload it. Please note though that a lot of women are over the bathroom selfie, preferring a candid shot taken by a friend.

Post pics that show off your personality. I respond to just about every guy who has adorable photos with his dogs or cats, because I think animal lovers make better lovers.

Message back in reasonable time when you get a response.

It’s rude to keep someone waiting when she’s responded to you. An immediate reply might seem desperate, but be respectful and try to get back to her the same day. If you take too long, she might forget that she reached out in the first place or be on a date with someone else!

What improvements have you made to your online dating game? Share your success stories!

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