While some of us keep our kinks and desires buried deep within our souls, never acting out on them or only when we meet that certain someone, others are open and wanting to express their kinky selves all the time. Most of us lie somewhere in the middle, but this is for those of you who want to wave your kink flag daily, not worried what others think or say, and see your kinks as part of your lifestyle—a fuel that feeds your fire.
There are many ways to show the world who you are, and I don’t necessarily recommend doing each of these daily (as who can afford to visit a sex club every day of the week?!), but a little of this and a little of that will keep your kink calendar filled.
10 Ways to Get Your Kink On Daily
1. Dress the Part
It’s really hard to tell if someone you see sitting across on the subway is kinky just by looking at them. A co-worker you share donuts with every day, who you swear is vanilla, may be tying her boyfriend up at night and paddling his ass. If you don’t care who knows what, you may want to wear your submissive collar out in the daytime or your leather gear to the office fundraiser next week.
2. Join Kinky Dating Sites
This is probably the easiest way to express your kinky self every day. These sites do have membership fees, but it’s worth it when you participate regularly—chatting with other members, watching videos, arranging hookups. It can become part of your daily routine to converse with other members over a cup of coffee.
Read: The Best Kinky Dating Sites
3. Attend Fetish Events
These are a great way to meet others who are loud and proud of their fetishes or lifestyle. It can be a broad event or something very niche that celebrates a particular lifestyle such as D/s relationships or a specific type of play like bondage. You can attend to mingle with others who share your proclivity or to learn something new.
4. Join a BDSM Munch
Munches aren’t really a place to look for kinky hookups, but rather a place to meet those in your community who share interests along the BDSM spectrum. These meetups are usually weekly or monthly and are casual in nature. It’s a great way to learn more about what’s going on in your local kink community.
Read: Everything You Need to Know About BDSM Munches
5. Exhibit Your Kink
If you are an exhibitionist, there is one way to get your kink rocks off daily—walk around in the nude, in your house or apartment. Dance, clean, bake in the buff! Maybe you leave the curtains open just for the slight chance someone might be walking by and see you. Knowing your neighbors and neighborhood helps to evaluate who may be watching and what is acceptable.
6. Write Erotic Fantasies
We know through our Kinky Confessions that our readers love to share fantasies and stories of their wild adventures. There are many other online places to submit or post your nonfiction or fiction fantasies. The cool thing about this is that you can do it anonymously which helps with feeling uninhibited.
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7. Contribute to Kink Forums
Maybe you don’t necessarily want to pen any fantasies to share with the world, but you want to contribute to dialogue that you find online. Members in forums can exchange knowledge regarding techniques, safe practices, positions, and viewpoints on specific fetishes and BDSM activities.
8. Try Sex Work
While sex work isn’t for everyone, it has become more commonplace and without as much stigma attached. I have friends now who work as phone sex operators, sex educators, porn actors, and webcam models as a way to supplement other types of income. I flirt with the idea of being a dominatrix! There are many avenues to explore in the sex work industry.
Read: Q&A with a Phone Sex Operator
9. Explore New Kinks
Even the most sexually adventurous of us can get stuck in a kink rut. When I found myself playing the same submissive roles over and over, I finally decided to explore my dominant side—which I didn’t even know existed! If your lover has been nudging you to try something that you are reluctant to for whatever reason, reconsider. Or if you have a desire that you can’t get out of your mind, spill the beans!
10. Treat Yourself to a New Toy
This is my favorite way to stoke the kink coals. I love the shopping part, especially if I’m with my lover, because you often end up buying something extra or completely different than what you originally had in mind. I went for a bullet vibrator, but I bought a 8” strap-on! It feels good to treat yourself!
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How did you express your kinky self today? Dare to share in the comments!
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