Have you ever tried to describe the feeling of receiving a blowjob? Try to explain the sensations and how they are different from other kinds of sex?
If you’re looking to simulate a blowjob during masturbation, or find a tool or toy that can give you the feeling of a realistic blowjob, what exactly are you looking for?
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What Does a Blowjob Feel Like?
Every guy describes the blowjob experience a bit differently, but some of the ideas that come up over and over again include the words “wet” and “warm.”
Lots of men describe receiving a blowjob as a profoundly intimate experience. It feels deeply connected and emotional to them.
Interestingly, the power exchange dynamic of a blowjob can work both ways in the perception of both giver and receiver of the blowjob, and may change depending on the relationship.
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While blowjobs are a common part of vanilla, non-kinky sex and relationships, not just for people who enjoy BDSM, the exchange there may include these power themes more subtly, or in more traditional ways, for them too.
Giving a blowjob can be an act of submission, with the receiver as dominant to be serviced by a sub or love slave. It can be viewed as an act of aggression or power or as humiliation. Being on one’s knees to suck someone’s cock can be viewed as degrading or submissive. It can feel like a “slutty” act.
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On the other hand, sucking someone’s cock can make them “putty in your hands” or mouth, as it were. It can be a powerful act of seduction and control, with the man’s most vulnerable asset between sharp teeth and jaws. It can make the receiver feel cherished, accepted, loved and nurtured by someone he values and looks up to and wants to please. Getting a blowjob is often described as “giving up control.”
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Many men describe the eager or hungry blowjob as extremely satisfying. If she wants that cock so badly she is willing to suck it, gobble it, tease it, and take it down, he feels incredibly desired and validated. Most men say they don’t enjoy the blowjob in the same way if she’s just going through the motions.
The sensations that are distinct about getting a blowjob are the moisture and warmth as well as the variety, since strokes, sucks, nibbles, bites, and kisses of the head, shaft, and balls each have different feelings and can be delivered and received with varying intensities.
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How to Simulate the Feeling of a Blowjob
Simulating a blowjob can be tricky. As with other kinds of sex, simulating the interactive and communicative aspects of a blowjob are difficult.
Of course emotional and psychological connections are important parts of the experience for many, and they are left out by blowjob simulation.
But masturbation is by definition a solo affair that provides important benefits of pleasure, relaxation, stress relief, and libido management, and finding ways to masturbate that simulate a blowjob physically provide variety and pleasure to your repertoire!
Fantasy can help fill in the role of a lover, the same as with other kinds of masturbation and porn watching.
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10 Ways to Simulate the Feeling of a Blowjob
1. Silicone Tongue and Mouth Sleeves
Toys that are styled with a mouth and tongue are similar to flesh tube toys, and the basic idea is that you stick your cock inside and use the tube to jerk your dick. The mouth ones are designed to simulate a blowjob and most are made to use with lube for that wet feeling.
There are very simple versions that are nice, economical staples for the solo toy box. They don’t have mouth designs but just a silicone sleeve that you can lube up. These are all great for proving a realistic blowjob!
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2. Power Sucking Toys
There are battery-operated sex toys created to safely simulate blowjob sucking. They can be very pleasurable and fun!
One drawback beyond the price tag is the mechanical, repetitive rhythm. While this certainly works to simulate a realistic blowjob for the getting off part, it doesn’t feel natural and varied. For this reason, innovative men everywhere have posted great ideas for rigging their own blowjob simulations. Read on!
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3. You’re Such a Ham
Few will admit to it, but the smartest guys know the best masturbation aid is a ham. You basically jab a hole into the center of a cooked ham. Some report using plastic wrap or a condom to protect their dick from meat pathogens. Do I need to say this? Never use uncooked meat!
A tender roast beef works wonders, but many dudes report that ham works best. Meat is moist, but you can add lube to the blowjob simulation experience.
Aside from this being a bit gross, the biggest drawback? It’s not really a drawback, but when it comes to simulating a blowjob, the ham feels more like a vagina, according to guys who have tried it.
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4. Watch Blowjob Porn to Simulate a Blow Job
You can masturbate the old-fashioned way with your hand, or use one of the sleeves or toys or a ham, but fantasy or watching blowjobs in porn is what can really take you there. The mind is able to conjure the sensations of your desire momentarily, which is why porn works in general.
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5. Wet Wipes
Keep things tidy and wet by using baby wipes for a simulated blowjob quickie. Some dudes report using a “wad” of wet wipes bunched up instead of just one or two for a more realistic blowjob experience while varying the kinds of hand strokes.
The drawback is that wipes may sting for some of you with sensitive skin, even though these are supposedly designed fragrance free and for tender baby skin. For most, this one is easy.
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6. Dessert Anyone? A Bowl Full of Jell-O
Sticking your dick quickly in and out of Jell-O is tried and true for many of you. Quick thrusting can create sucking-style friction that simulates a blowjob. However, sugar is a drawback on your cock because it can lead to infections.
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7. Autofellatio
It’s not really simulating a blowjob if you can give yourself a blowjob. Lots of you have tried this, I know! And most of you can’t do it. A very small percentage of us have the right body composition and flexibility to make autofellatio a reality. But if you do, it’s a very realistic blowjob!
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8. Vacuum Cleaners Are a No No!
In theory, this sounds great, but lots of men are hospitalized every year by sticking their dick into a vacuum cleaner nozzle. Don’t do it. They are not designed for this purpose and you can seriously injure your best friend. Invest in a suction toy designed for this instead if this idea appeals to you.
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9. Pringles Can and Sponges
Jerry rig your blowjob simulation with some sponges in a Pringles can or any container with depth. Always use clean sponges as sponges harbor a lot of bacteria. Moisten the sponges with water first, and then lube. You just stick your dick into the can, in between the sponges, and enjoy the slippery wetness.
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10. Condom and Lube
This one is easy, economical, and extremely pleasurable. Just put a LOT of lube into a condom, and use that to simulate a blowjob along with your hand. Lots of men report that this is an amazing way to masturbate, and it provides a realistic blowjob feel too.
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