Sensory play is a great way to add a little kink to your sex life. If you or your lover like a little heat then you’ll want to try waxing or wax play. You’ll be dripping hot wax onto your partner’s body or vice versa for pleasure and maybe a little pain depending on what kind of bdsm relationship you are in. Not sure where to begin? Here are a few suggestions and tips to get you started…
Temperature
This depends on the type of wax or candles you are using. Jar candles have a low melting point so these may even feel warm, not hot when falling on skin. Usually the fatter a candle the lower the wax temperature. Color or scented candles will be much higher in temperature, metallics being the hottest and can burn or leave scarring. Beeswax candles are higher than soy or Paraffin wax candles (many recommend these because of the temperature and their affordability.)
Practice
You can test different candles on yourself before playing with someone else, but remember, you’re pain tolerance may be much higher or lower than someone else. You will also find which parts of your body you enjoy the sensation most.
Play Area
Many couples will use a plastic drop sheet or canvas under the person receiving the wax to prevent wax splatters; it can be very difficult to get wax out of fabric such as bedsheets or carpets.
Safety
So where can you drop wax on your lover? Experienced players say anywhere below the neck, but of course it’s best to discuss limits and body boundaries before you get started. Not everyone will want wax dripped on their nipples or balls. Wax will cool and solidify on the body, but more wax will take longer and may burn the skin.
The higher you drip the wax from, the cooler it will be when it hits your partner’s skin, although there will be a bit more splatter.
Some couples take wax play into edgeplay by using the candle’s flame… not recommended to those not already experienced in fireplay.
Blindfolds
This can add a lot to the play… if you’re lover can’t see where the next drop of wax is going to fall, it can be especially arousing. Of course, there must be total trust in the relationships. I wouldn’t suggest this for a first-time hookup.
Wax Removal
Some enjoy removing the wax from their own or partner’s bodies. It helps to stretch or press down on the skin to loosen the wax. Some kinksters will use “tools” to remove the blobs. Throw wax in the trash, not down a drain where it will clog.
For more information, read: Sensual Hot Wax Play by Miss Eve
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