Are glory holes what you think they are? Do glory holes only exist in porn?
What Is a Glory Hole?
Do you have steamy fantasies about finding a glory hole, with someone willing to service your hungry cock on the other side?
Or maybe you have heard the term “glory hole” but aren’t quite sure what it is, if it’s a real thing, or who it is for. You might see glory holes being used in porn and think it would be hot to try it out, but aren’t sure if it’s really a thing anymore.
A glory hole is a makeshift hole in a wall, historically most often between bathroom stalls in a public men’s washroom. It can also be a crack or gap or other kind of partition. The glory hole might be in another kind of wall, such as the old-school porn viewing booths in sex shops.
The purpose of the glory hole is basically sex through the hole in the wall. The glory hole should just be big enough to reveal the torso and cock, and line it up with a waiting hand, mouth, butt, or vagina on the other side.
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A Brief History of Glory Holes
Since glory holes are jerry-rigged by horny people, they can be created anywhere horny people are found. But for the most part, the glory days of the glory hole are bygone ones.
Glory holes are associated with gay male cruising culture, when M2M sex was illegal or considered unacceptable, and thus took place on the down low. Public washrooms were a place where men solicited sexual encounters with other men.
There are different sociological theories about the why of glory holes. Some views held that gay men were forced into compulsive anonymous sex by the dominant culture of oppression. Others viewed the practice as a creative way to find sex, motivated by the thrill of anonymity, a thrill that still holds even though gay sex is legal today. Likely, it is a combination of the two.
Glory holes were historically used by police to entrap gay men to prosecute them.
Glory holes are not just a gay male fantasy or reality. Straight men may not have as much luck finding a receptive connection, or might get arrested if they enter a women’s room and hope for some hot hole action. But the glory hole idea is just as hot for many straight men and some women as it is for gay men.
Glory holes have been found all over the world. They also appear regularly in porn, erotic literature, and popular culture.
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What’s the Appeal of a Glory Hole?
The glory hole idea promises unbridled, uninhibited desire. The anonymity aspect is incredibly erotic for some people.
Some experience that anonymity as depersonalization or objectification, and that can play into humiliation and degradation BDSM kinks, or bimbofication ones.
Glory holes can be dangerous, which is hot for some people. The danger of getting caught is one kind of risk. Meeting anonymously and not knowing anything about your partner is another.
The glory hole appeal can be voyeuristic or exhibitionist.
Anything that is taboo can have strong erotic appeal.
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Glory holes are also seen as seedy and dirty, not surprisingly since they are usually found in run-down, vandalized locations and are in public restrooms near filthy appliances. This surrounding of squalor is a turn on for some people.
Glory hole sex can also be exciting for men who want to experience man-on-man sex but don’t identify as gay. It can be an erotic adventure or series of adventures to explore that aspect of a guy’s sexuality.
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Are Glory Holes Safe?
It depends. Roleplaying an anonymous hookup with a trusted lover at a remote glory hole unlikely to be intercepted by police, with a locking door, a condom, and soap and water, can be very safe.
Sticking your dick through a hole just to see what happens might not be.
Generally speaking, used in the classic way, there are hygienic and STI risks and the risk of violence or prosecution. And watch out for splinters!
That said, the risk is part of the thrill and can be minimal. A handjob from a horny woman you know is very low risk sex. Design your glory hole experience in a way that maximizes your safety.
7 Tips to Find a Glory Hole
1. Visit Private Sex Clubs
Private sex clubs and fetish clubs are designed with a wide variety of fantasy experiences in mind. Find one that has a glory hole and try it there where other people are seeking similar adventure.
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2. Attend Swinger Parties
You can find a glory hole at some swinger parties, although chats on Reddit and swinger boards seem to indicate they are not popular with the ladies. Swinging is by nature a highly social and not anonymous form of polyamory or partner swapping, so this isn’t a surprise. Still, you may still be able to try your luck there.
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3. Go to “Adult” Shops
Once upon a time, adult sex shops and porn shops had private viewing booths to put some coins in and watch smutty videos. You could often find glory holes here. It’s hard to find this kind of porn shop, but a few still exist in some cities.
There are various online chats about finding glory holes at adult bookstores and toy shops. A surprising number of women with a cock worship or sucking fetish speak about their experiences and fantasies using these glory holes.
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4. Try Online Glory Hole Directories
I was surprised to learn how many hookup opportunities are happening so close to home! Directories like Hole Hunter and Gloryhole Directory list public and private places with glory holes or other ways to connect for anonymous sex.
5. Make Your Own Glory Hole
Live out your fantasy by directing it yourself in the safety of your own home. If you don’t want to break the walls, use an old screen or a divider or roleplay with a door just ajar.
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6. Hire a Professional
Many pros cater to fetishes and fantasies of every kind, and have a glory hole in their space ready and waiting for you.
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7. Explore by Fantasy, Erotic Lit, and Porn
Enjoy the glory hole experience vicariously through porn, fantasy, and erotic graphic novels or fiction. For some, the glory hole doesn’t translate well into reality anyways. For example, sex in public sounds hot, but when it comes down to it, it is often rushed or you’re too nervous about being caught to get hard.
Maybe you are in a monogamous relationship. You can still experience the horny rush of the glory hole through porn, through role play with your lover, or by enjoying erotic fantasy stories.
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