What is subspace? How does it affect submissives? And how can dominants care for submissives who are experiencing subspace?
Subspace, sometimes referred to as subdrop, is the state of mind a submissive experiences after being fully engrossed in a scene. They may forget everything else in their lives and lose the ability to think rationally or make healthy decisions.
In a sub-dom scene, a submissive places themselves completely in the hands of their dominant. They will enter a state of deep recession that can be compared to being high at times. If the couple is not experienced enough this can become a dangerous situation.
A dominant needs to keep a close eye on their partner during and after a scene has ended. In a scene that may include spanking, the submissive may beg for more even though it would cause them extreme physical harm. It’s the subspace state that keeps them from recognizing this. That’s why a dominant must monitor them at all times.
In subspace, the endorphin (chemical and hormonal) levels are high. It’s important to come down from this high slowly and with another person present because there is usually a detachment from reality. As a sub comes down, he or she will feel completely exhausted and sometimes confused. They may also feel no pain from what they just experienced.
A dominant should encourage their submissive to rest or sleep comfortably at their own pace. A submissive may not want to come down because they don’t want to lose the high, but it is the dominant’s responsibility to help them transition gradually. Try chocolate – it can also help because it speeds up the release of endorphins.
Submissives: How do you experience subspace?
Dominants: How do you care for a submissive after a scene?
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