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Q&A: Desperately Seeking Strap-On Sex

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Dear Jamie,

I get really turned on by the idea of a woman penetrating me with a strap-on cock. I love watching kinky porn where lesbians are using strap-on dicks to fuck each other, and I’ve tried some where the guy is getting fucked too.

It seems that most of the pegging porn featuring a guy shows him to be submissive. I don’t mind a woman taking charge, it’s hot, but I’m not at all into the kind of hardcore fem-dom or sissy-boy play that most pegging porn seems to be. I am not into humiliation and don’t see this as humiliating.

To each their own, I just want a woman to fuck my ass. Is kinky strap-on sex always about BDSM? Where can I find a woman who loves to peg who isn’t necessarily a dominatrix or into sissy-boy stuff? I’m a regular guy who enjoys all the usual stuff like getting my dick sucked, licking her pussy, and penis-in-vagina sex. I just want a bit more. – Ted, 31

Ted, there are lots of women who have discovered the joys of penetrating a guy with a strap-on! Some are into fem-dom or BDSM fetishes, and some are just versatile and curious and adventurous.

It’s true that a lot of pegging and strap-on porn has a fem-dom take. While a dominant woman really turns me on, I’m actually turned off by humiliation stuff—it’s a fine line for me. Commanding the sexual stage turns me on, humiliating the sub turns me off. So finding the right pegging videos can be tricky. I recommend bookmarking them when you find ones that work for you.

That said, by revamping your online kinky dating profile to be as specific as your needs, you’re not going to have a problem finding women who want to strap on a cock and give that ass a good fucking.

Post your profile on kinky and broader sites too, but with very specific details. State basically what you told me here—that you love watching women with strap-ons fuck each other, and you want to experiment with women in strap-ons fucking you. Be clear that you aren’t interested in humiliation, but in mutual pleasure.

If you date women you meet through friends or work, it can be tricky to know when to bring it up. You don’t want to frustrate her by leaving it too long and wasting her time if she isn’t kinky at all, but you don’t want to perv out on her by announcing you want her to harness up and fuck you in the ass when you’re sharing your first pizza.

It’s best to simply mention that you are sexually adventurous or kinky and looking for like minded women. Then, if she’s looking for another kind of relationship, she can bow out politely. If she’s curious, she’ll ask you to be more specific.

Good luck! Let us know how it goes.

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