So many new BDSM aspirants and fetishists falsely believe that bondage and submission are physical fantasies. Many look at a whip or length of rope and expect submitting to their Dom to involve a degree of pain that they can sense through their skin. The fact is that very little BDSM play is based on the physical realm at all. In fact, physical manifestations are usually a last resort, intended to shock the other senses back into alignment with the responsibilities expected for a sub.
Humiliation play is almost entirely mental and emotional, leveraging social pressures instead of tangible items to create an even more restrictive kind of bondage. For example, imagine being told to arrive at a fancy dinner restaurant in an cocktail dress with the hem at least four inches above your knee and no panties beneath them. That by itself may seem titillating but it would be far from humiliating.
Now instead, imagine at that same dinner. When you arrive you find your Dom seated at a table with a beautiful woman who he introduces to you as “someone important.” Now before you’re seated at a table for three, that important lady takes out a tape measure and says “come here slut, let me get a measurement on that hem of yours.” Standing next to the table, she slowly measures the distance from your knee to the hem of your dress in full view of the waiters and the rest of the patrons having dinner. Some begin to look at you longer than you might like, others are obviously whispering about you to each other in disgust.
“3.5 inches at best” the lady says with a sharp tongue.” You were told a minimum of four inches above the knee, were you not?” She asks. As you stammer to answer this stranger, she cuts you off in the conversation with a cold stare and the word “in” – handing you a set of salt and pepper shakers. You begin to take a seat when she pushes the chair out of range with her foot and reminds you “in” as if to not bother wasting another word in your direction.
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Left with no easy way to act confused, you close your eyes to hide yourself from the shame of what you are about to do and squat slightly as you guide the first cold crystal shaker into your wet pussy. “The other won’t fit, Madame. I’m quite full,” you whisper at her. “WONT FIT?” She bellows back in a voice loud enough to be heard by the coat check clerk. “You have other holes… make use of yourself. David did say you were worthless but I expected at least some ability to follow basic instructions.”
By now your face is bright red with a mixture of embarrassment and exasperation. Your Dom is starting to chuckle at you and his female friend has a very twisted expression on her face that lets you know your asshole had best be penetrated by a pepper shaker soon or it’s going to be a very long night for you indeed.
This moment between desire and utter consternation is what humiliation play is all about, and for true BDSM submissives, it becomes obvious that any room full of people can quickly become more awe inspiring than the most artful rope bondage or tightest grip on a leather whip!
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