You meet someone online. You have every intention of meeting this person in real life. But you don’t because you’ve created a fantasy that you know reality will never live up to. This isn’t that unusual. And some online daters stick to this m.o.
There are plenty of tire kickers out there – daters who log in frequently to peruse profiles, but who never send or return messages. Some of them never fully complete their bdsm profiles. Fantasy Daters take it to the next level. They fill out profiles and make contact – they just don’t want to meet you, ever!
Maybe you’re one, or you recognize the type. Have you ever met a hot woman online, started messaging back and forth for days that turn into weeks. You don’t want to seem forward or scare her off, so you wait patiently for her to suggest an in person meet up. Only this doesn’t happen, so you take the lead, but she puts you off time and time again. What’s up with that? Let me share one woman’s experience with a fantasy relationship.
I met “Mike” online a couple years back. I was new to the game, having only met a few guys previous. That may have been part of my reluctance. “Mike” seemed awesome and even though we hadn’t met, I still felt chemistry. Soon we were talking several times a day with emails so flirtatious they made me want to masturbate at the same time. We graduated to phone calls where he’d have me choking on a carrot because he had a gagging fetish. He wanted to throat fuck me for real, and since I was new to bdsm, it kinda freaked me out.
He didn’t push about meeting but did bring it up now and then. I’d make up an excuse when I should have been honest about my reluctance. Part of my hesitation was worrying that a real life meeting would ruin things. I loved our online relationship. Things eventually petered out with him pulling back until there was no contact. I realized that I need to meet potential dates quickly, or I do start developing fantasies that I don’t want to give up.
Do you engage in online only relationships? Why?
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