It’s rare to bring out the whips and chains on a hookup, but most couples need a certain level of trust before they engage in BDSM activities. But that’s not to say you can’t partake in a little kink lite on a hookup you met online.
I’ve surprised a few men with my roll of bondage tape and blindfold on a first hookup, and they happily went along with my shenanigans. They let me tie them up because I didn’t feel comfortable enough to be that vulnerable.
So what can you do to go past vanilla sex with someone you’ve just met? There are lots of toys and accessories that are perfect when it comes to sharing a little bit of your wild side with a new lover. The trick is to give her just enough information to tantalize, while leaving your deeper fantasies to her imagination… or the second or third date.
Sexy Toys and Accessories for Hookups
Mild restraints.
Use bindings that you or she could get out if needed or wanted. It’s important that you both feel safe and comfortable. Bondage items that work are ties, plush cuffs, and scarves. Once you have the trust required, you can graduate to metal cuffs and ropes.
Sensory Objects.
You can find all kinds of sensory play inspiration all around the house. My favorites include ice cubes, heating pads, combs, and mini vibrators. Throw in a blindfold and you’ve got a great game for two.
Lubes and Oils.
These are standards to always have on hand for new and regular hookups, especially if you like anal. There are many different lubes to choose from and most sex shops offer small, one-time samples so that you can offer a variety. Oils and massage bars are perfect for an erotic massage.
Foods.
Want to offer double penetration but don’t have that double dildo you always thought of buying? Have a beautiful, just-the-right-size, cucumber on hand. Cold and smooth and slippery—no lube required! Or how about warming up a tomato, coring the middle, and watching your hookup slide the warm fruit up and down your hard shaft.
Read 7 Foods for Sex for more ideas.
Spanking Tools.
It’s rare a woman is going to share her love of being spanked on a first hookup, but hey, dare to dream. You always have your bare hand, but a few other goodies that work well are hairbrushes, paddles, and… your belt. Let her direct, and restrain yourself if you are a dominant.
How kinky have you gotten with a first-time hookup? Did the toys come out?
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