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Bondage Tips for Beginners

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You’ve been lurking around Kink Lovers for a while, enjoying the variety and spice of kink life, hoping to get in on the action.

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If you’re ready to take it to the next level, but not sure how, here are some bondage tips for beginners. Get started on an exciting fetish journey today!

Seek out an experienced partner.

It’s the most practical way to enter into the world of bondage and BDSM, but it’s also the hottest. Getting initiated is a rite of passage, and it can feel intense and profound.

You can be led into BDSM on a leash, or if your thing is to dominate, you can find out how from a submissive who is willing to instruct you.

It all depends how extreme your kink gets. You don’t need a specialist to indulge a few mild restraint whims for hanky panky. But learning the ropes from someone who is experienced with safety and pleasure is a great idea.

Communicate openly.

There’s nothing worse than going on six dates with a kinky girl only to find out she’s into furry dressup and has zero desire to don a red-latex bodysuit and beat you to a pulp.

Don’t assume a person’s kinks, and remember there are millions, so even if you are looking for a date on kinky dating sites, it’s still helpful to express what yours are on your profile.

Consider a professional.

There are professional BDSM practitioners who provide sex, instruction, or both. Some doms are “full service” and some provide services in training, props, safety, etc. These are private coaches or experts who can share their experiences.

You might think it’s not as sexy or romantic if you hire a person, but a few sessions to find your way can give you confidence and answer all your questions in a nonjudgemental atmosphere.

Attend workshops.

If you can’t find anything in your town, Google the nearest big city, and take a weekend vacation to a kink workshop. You’ll find friendly, approachable, class-room or yoga-retreat style workshops from two hours to weekend intensives. These are great opportunities to meet others into bondage and kinks, and also get practical experience with stuff like making knots and safe whipping practices.

There are lots of short and full-length films that are instructional too. They are great, but the in-person opportunity affords an interactive experience.

Educate yourself the right way.

Kinky novels, erotica, porn, and movies can be exciting and educational, but take them all with a grain of salt. Get your advice from bondage videos that are designed as workshops or instructionals.

BDSM erotica and porn are people’s fantasies, not safety playbooks. You can find out all kinds of stuff, but some of it is pure imagination and totally unsafe in practice because it’s in the mind, not meant for real life. Some is unrealistic, and some is impractical if you don’t know what you’re doing.

Use bondage erotica to enhance your repertoire once you get some hands-on experience with the basics.

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