BDSM Dating

How to Find BDSM Hookups Online: BDSM Dating Sites

Sexy Blonde with Whip

Looking for BDSM partners online, but don’t know where to start? Try these top BDSM dating sites to find real kinky hookups.

When looking for new playmates into BDSM, it can be difficult to determine who might share your kink or be open to trying. Revealing your kinky side to new prospects can also be challenging, with unpredictable results. What’s a BDSM lover to do?

BDSM dating sites make it easier than ever to connect with like-minded people, without worrying about getting matched up with someone too vanilla. So head to where the kinksters are!

Disclosure: I’ve been a member at the following sites and can confirm they’re the real thing. I’m still a full member at BDSMdate. When I’m comfortable recommending a site to our readers, I sometimes use links that earn a small commission if someone decides to upgrade. It costs nothing extra, just helps this little blog keep going.

The Best BDSM Dating Sites to Meet Local BDSM Play Partners

Join the sites below and you’ll discover a whole new world of local women and men eager to experiment and bring fantasies to life

I’ll also outline some tips below for getting the most out of your membership for BDSM dating success.

1. BDSMdate.com

This is my favorite site for meeting people into BDSM, and I’ve been a long-time member.

BDSM Date is the largest kinky dating site out there, and caters to BDSM lovers as well as anyone into fetish, role-play, and other kinky fun. They are on the same network as Alt.com, which you may already know about. This means you’ll find a massive  amount of members, so finding someone local is no problem.

BDSMdate.com is also the most full-featured with video introductions, live member video streaming, member-created groups, chat, and blogs.

There’s definitely enough to keep you occupied between dates. And you can search through profiles by interest whether it’s bondage, S&M, foot play, spankings… and on and on and on! Connecting with others who share your specific kink and want to play is what this site is all about.

Join BDSM Date

2. BDSMSingles.com

BDSM Singles is another site that has been around a long time. While I consider BDSMSingles.com a distant second choice, it’s worth checking out to see who’s there and actively looking, especially in larger cities.

They are not as big or feature-rich as BDSM Date, but the community is very BDSM-centric with lots of Doms and subs eager to play in person. Perhaps because they don’t have video, there is more focus on meeting up in person.

Join BDSM Singles

3. BDSM Niche Options

Since BDSM can encompass a wide variety of inclinations, I’m going to suggest a couple options for anyone who’d like to try an even more niche site to suit their particular kink or fetish. Just remember that the more laser-targeted a site gets, the fewer members you’ll find. But they will share your kink, which is the important thing.

Strapon Dating

StraponSexDating.com is just what the name suggests. This site has been very popular with readers here at Kink Lovers, and it’s a great choice for anyone looking to be dominated by a woman wielding a strapon. It turns out pegging is a lot more popular than you might think!

Cuckold Dating

CouplesDating.com is my choice for those into cuckolding or the hotwife lifestyle. Couples Dating isn’t specifically for kinky people, but it’s a very large, sex-positive hookup site that welcomes all genders and orientations. Because they accept couples profiles it’s a great option for finding threesomes, meeting cuckold partners, or any other type of group fun.

3 Tips for Getting Results on BDSM Dating Sites

  1. Invest some time in crafting your BDSM profile.
    You’ll get a lot more mileage out of your membership if you create a killer profile. All this means is filling out the fields completely, being specific and playful about your interests, and adding photos from the very beginning. Want to stay private? BDSM Date allows members to keep some photos in a secret album to share only as you see fit.
  2. Put your kinks right up front.
    This is especially important if there is something very unique about what you seek or the type of people you desire. Make it easier for potential hookups to find you by putting your penchant for pegging, your love of feet, or your cuckold status right in your profile title.
  3. Make use of everything the site has to offer.
    Want to attract more views of your profile, and more messages to your inbox? Don’t sit back and wait for something to happen – make use of advanced features that can bring a lot of attention your way. Create your own member blog if you enjoy writing, try out chat rooms, or join a niche group. Don’t see a group that fits your kink? Create your own!

Good luck and enjoy. xo Lola

Tell us what you think!

guest
5 Comments
Inline Feedbacks
View all comments
kink lovers logo
Kink Lovers is the online magazine for kinky people into BDSM, fetish, and kink. If you want to explore your kinky side, spice up your love life, or meet new kinky partners - enter the world of Kink Lovers. Enjoy D/s relationship advice, kink education and resources, BDSM and kink dating tips, fetish facts, and reader confessions.

kiss
Join over 6,000 readers who receive the Kink Lovers newsletter every two weeks.




Let's be friends.

All Kink Lovers articles are shared to Facebook and Twitter. Keep the the kinky content flowing your way by following along on your favorite social network.

Kink Lovers on Facebook Kink Lovers on Twitter

Copyright © 2021 Kinklovers.com