In an era where everyone knows far too much about everyone else and you can hardly take a walk down the street to a store without an awful lot of information being collected about you – keeping your kinky dating life anonymous is becoming both more difficult and more important than ever. We sat down with some leading dating site security experts and compiled a list of their insights for you to learn from, and it was all done anonymously of course.
1)Â Most People Give Away Anonymity Intentionally
All too often people complain that their anonymity has been lost when in fact they were the responsible party for giving it all away. Choosing to brag about your dating exploits on a Facebook page, discussing dirty details with others in the community or outside it, using a shared computer to access the BDSM sites you favor – all of these kinds of intentional acts can quickly erode your privacy and it’s important to remember that the internet doesn’t forget. Once you choose to put something out there, it’s not so easy to stop the bell from ringing anymore.
2)Â Public Wireless Connections Are Easily Snooped
Many top dating sites, especially in the BDSM community, now offer the added convenience of a mobile connection so that you can stay in touch with everyone no matter where you go. A secure mobile connection may be harder than you think, and logging in from public WiFi in an airport or coffee shop makes you a prime target for phone snooping by hackers nearby. Be aware of what you post over non-secure connections and keep any truly private communications to a more secure method of interacting with your mates.
3) Be Aware Of Intermingling Your Social Circles
Introducing the sexy submissive mate you met on your favorite kink dating fetish site to a coworker who happens to be at the same barbecue may seem like a good idea, but all too often the collision of people from your play time and your work time leads to a bad outcome. Keeping a sharp dividing line between each set of your social contacts is an important firewall for your fetish dating anonymity.
It’s easy to say everyone should be a lifestyle BDSM dating enthusiast, completely open about all of your sexual fantasies and obsessions – but in the real world, some of us need to be a bit more discreet. The price of anonymity is eternal vigilance, and so long as you take care to keep your dating history discreet, you’ll always be able to find exciting new mates with the kind of security that makes your BDSM dating play time so exciting.
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