Maybe you know someone whose marriage or long-term relationship dissolved over kinky differences. It’s happened to me more than once—many men aren’t right for me because they want me all to themselves, or they don’t like to be tied up or pegged with a strap-on by me and my girlfriend.
It’s always sad when a good relationship can’t survive a kink or fetish, but I believe wholeheartedly that kink can more often cure a failing relationship rather than kill it!
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People break up all the time, not just over one being vanilla or not being satisfied sexually because a favorite kink is missing. A regular affair is far more often the reason that marriages end. Other times it’s boredom. Mid-life crisis. One partner travelling too much. Losing the spark between each other. Getting stuck in a rut.
Think about it: most of those things can be cured by kink!
Matt, 40, says, “My wife’s lack of being satisfied in bed caused me years of feeling like I wasn’t the man she wanted. Then I had an affair because I wanted to be with a woman who responded to me. Our marriage was falling apart. In a last ditch attempt to save it, my wife told me about her so-called shameful desires.
We were trying to have a serious discussion but my dick got so hard it was practically tearing through my jeans. Right then and there, I fulfilled her fantasies to be overpowered, pissed on, sodomized, and covered in cum. It was as if we’d never had sex before. She came three times and my erection didn’t go away for days.”
Terry, 26, reports the same thing, but considered from a more emotional perspective. “I felt so much closer to my girl when she confessed she is most aroused in intense fetish rituals and role plays. We have been together since we were teen sweethearts, and married young. Now I know we will continue to grow together and be more and more intimate. We’re still getting to know each other, and that’s really exciting.”
A close friend of mine has a different story. Neither she or her husband were particularly kinky. So for them, it wasn’t about a truth coming to surface that was hidden. It was about embarking on a unique journey.
“Call us old fashioned but to both of us, vows are vows. They don’t change just because something else changes. People often say, ‘you’re not the person I married.’ Well, what do they expect? Of course not, we change and grow. Breaking up wasn’t an option just because we didn’t have much interest in sex anymore.”
Ann and Aaron decided to embark on a series of new experiences together. They decided to experiment with different kinky sex fetishes, giving each kind of kink a fair shake. “Just because I’ve never really fantasized about extreme bondage doesn’t mean it wouldn’t be interesting to try out and experience together,” Ann said.
They have experimented by going to see a professional dom together, dressing up, engaging in threesomes, voyeurism and exhibitionism. “Aaron even dressed up like a slut in my highest heels and fishnets. It was so much fun.”
If you’re in a relationship that’s on the rocks, adopt a new attitude—kink might be the cure.
Bondage is bonding, and being vulnerable and unveiling your soul to each other, along with sharing new experiences together, are exactly the things strong relationships are built on. Kink can save the day!
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