I would say throw it all out there and see what sticks, but some people would rather ease into the truth of their situations—break things to potential dates lightly. I get that.
Still, what kinds of kinks would it be alright to share up front, and what would not be alright? What would cause faces to drop in disgust and dismay, and what would sound intriguing to a woman you’ve recently met online?
4 Kinks to Share with Women Online
1. Polyamory and Swinging
Polyamory is more a lifestyle than a kink, but more and more people are exploring non-monogamy. Mentioning that you are into multiple partners could go either way. However, because it is not only a desire to fuck as many people as possible, but also a philosophy of life with principles and morals, a curious person might find themselves wondering what it’s all about.
If you are capable of explaining that polyamory is a philosophy, and not just a roundabout way of saying you want to act like total dog, you might just hook yourself an interested partner. And if you are already in an open relationship, you can meet other couples at sites like CouplesDating.com for virtual group-sex encounters.
2. Foot Worship
Again, it could be dodgy, but the foot fetish is by far the most common, and the least weird of the kinks. It is really only a notch below an ass or breast fetish. The trick is selling your enthusiasm for her feet as healthy and sexy—get her excited about your excitement.
Until you meet in person, she can give you a sneak peek of her feet—painted toes in nylons, wearing stilettos or open-toe sandals. If her feet don’t match your tastes (this can be a deal breaker for some serious fetishists) then you don’t have to meet in person only to be disappointed.
3. Dirty Talk
Some people are deeply uncomfortable with sexy talk over the phone or computer, while others will jump at the chance. Sharing you’re into it might be a good start, perhaps just as a test. Share this kink, and you will either get laughed at, met with extreme discomfort, or be in like Flynn.
What’s great about digital dates, is that it’s less embarrassing if things go south. You can make a quick exit, rather than fret over how to leave an uncomfortable situation. Using niche dating sites like BDSMdate.com will usually ensure the women you are meeting are kinky is some way, and their profiles will give you more particulars that will help you find your match.
4. D/s Role Playing
Whether you are a true dom or sub or just want to act the part, online dates are a fun and safe place to do so. Because it doesn’t require the same kind of trust you would need for in-person dates, you can dive right in. You can explore either role, or switch it up with a willing date. You will quickly discover how much control you are willing to relinquish or how much you are willing to submit.
These innocent games can escalate as you become comfortable with each other, and you drift into crazier and crazier challenges. What starts with a simple show and tell of body parts may morph into self-imposed CBT, mutual masturbation, or pony play dress-up. The sky’s the limit if you hit it off right away.
What kinks would you engage in with a digital date? Please share in the comments!
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