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4 Reasons to Play Submissive (even if You’re a Dom)

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You may not think of yourself as a naturally submissive person. Maybe you’re used to being the alpha dog. I want to put it to you that getting outside of yourself can be a real learning experience.

You can let me know if you think they are helpful, useful, illuminating, or not!

4 Reasons to Play the Sub

1. See How the Other Half Lives

If you like being dominant, you might consider what that feeling is about. Is it because you are insecure and fear giving up control, or is it merely a game? This may seem counter intuitive, but giving up control can actually help you understand what control really is.

If you let somebody else take command for a minute, and you make yourself helpless, you will understand better what it is like to dominate another person. It will make you a better boss to sympathize with your underling.

2. Learn New Tricks

If you have only ever been a dom, then you have a somewhat one-sided vision of what works and what doesn’t. Another person’s approach and attitude will teach you all kinds of things you never imagined. For example, if you are a massage therapist, the best thing you can do to improve your technique is to get massages.

By switching roles, you’ll experience techniques and methods from others that you can later add to your dom repertoire.

3. Become a Better Dom

Being submissive can be very arousing, especially if it’s your first time. If you are in a situation where you have been playing a certain way with a certain person for a long time, the reversal of roles provides an enormous release of built-up tension.

When you put yourself in another person’s shoes, not just in your thoughts but through physical action, you are better able to appreciate the submissive’s experience moving forward.

4. Discover Unexpected Pleasures

The world is full of amazing and wonderful experiences. What a joy it is to try them all and see which ones are the best. You don’t have to stick with something if you don’t like it, however, it is often true that we have kinks and fetishes we never knew we had until we are confronted with them. Until we are in that moment, realizing that, despite doubting it, we are actually having an amazing time.

It’s possible to learn to love the submissive side of role playing, even if you’ve taken on the dominant role for most of your life.

Are you a dom who would be willing to play the submissive?

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