It’s the one night of the year that the whole world parties together, and since you want to have the time of your life, think kink!
1. Play dress up and dance the night away.
Who says you can’t wear leather or your wife’s slip dress and strappy heels unless you’re at an official fetish event?
Go to your favorite night club with your friends, all of you dressed in the way that best expresses your current kinky vibe. Everyone dresses sexy on New Year’s Eve, kinky or not, so your crew might not even raise any eyebrows!
2. Travel to a city with a fetish ball.
Vancouver, Canada has an annual Sin City Fetish New Year’s Eve bash that sells out every year. Pompano Beach, Florida, hosts a popular NOT NYE fetish night so that you get to party before the party. The fully stocked dungeon is a big draw.
There are similar kink and fetish balls all over the world, from France to Texas, so check out your fetish community boards and Google and see what exotic locale you’ll end up in.
3. Find an intimate kinky mingler to attend.
If a crowded ball is not your cup of tea, ask around and find a smaller at-home fetish gathering. There are lots of them. Maybe your favorite dominatrix is hosting an open dungeon for New Year’s, or maybe someone from your poly circle is hosting a swingers bash.
4. Host a sex toy swap at home.
If you’re not into noisy nightclubs or boozy balls, or you just want to host yourself, keep things quieter and celebrate at home with a kinky kind of Secret Santa.
Invitees bring a sex toy or fetish item—paddles, rubber stockings, bondage restraints, or a strap-on—wrapped up. Someone starts things off by opening one, and the next person can take a toy from someone else, or unwrap a new one.
Everyone leaves with a new addition to their collection and maybe gets to try something new. To crank things up a notch, turn your swap into live-action playtime when the clock strikes twelve!
5. Keep it quiet with the love of your life or a hot hookup.
If you partied too much over Christmas, or you just don’t go in for the adrenaline and hype of the occasion, celebrate one on one in bed.
One year I stayed in, chained inside a claw foot bathtub, getting doused by the midnight champagne. It was simple and sweet, and it’s the one New Year’s celebration that stands out in my memory.
Do what you both love. A kinky kitchen scenario is a lot of fun if you want to prepare dinner together, or watch a fave fetish film for your own version of Netflix and chill.
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